I've been seeing this bloke for about two months now. We get on better than I've ever got on with anyone before and I'm mad about him but I lied to my mom when she asked me his age. I told her twenty six when he's actually thirty one and I'm twenty two. I don't know how she'd react to his real age but at the moment I'm living in a differant country thousands of miles away and there's no danger of her meeting him any time soon to figure out there's more of an age gap. At the same time I feell terrible lying to her about his age,should I just tell her now and get it over with or wait until closer to the time when I move back there(about six months away)?
Jesus, youre 22. Why should it be a big deal? Even to your mother...i personally dont even see that as a noteable age gap. To me, as long as both partners are adults and both are sane, no-one really has the right to comment on the relationship other than to advise. Good luck to you both and sorry i couldnt give any advice, but i just dont understand how anyone could ever have a problem with that. Xx
It's really none of her business how old the person you date is...you're an adult. You are able to make your own decisions. Personally, I would have just told the truth in the first place...but since you already told her twenty six...just don't bring it up again.
If I was you, I'd tell her and get it out in the open. Appologise for lying and explain why, but honestly, you're 22 and the only one who has any say in who you date, really, is you.
Its possible to have that difference, if you think you're on one line with him, do it. Eventually, if it goes good but not too late, tell your mother. Say its really good and theres no worry. Tell her how great he is! You're old enough to make your decision so she should trust it.
Okay, coming from a very similar experience, I have to say that you should just tell your mom the truth before she finds out any other way, like maybe talking to him if he picks up the phone when you're not available. They will talk. From my personal experience of moving thousands of miles away from my mother, moving in with a 31 year old (I was 19), and then lying about how I came to be in Seattle, when she finally found out, she wasn't upset about his age or that I wasn't closer, but that I'd damaged the trust we had by lying about something just to protect her. Trust me, I bet your mother would rather hear the truth, from you, no matter how much you think she'd get upset.
