An interesting situation involving virginity...

Hi, everyone. I'm crossposting this from another thread - I hope that's okay. I just figured I was more likely to get a response from here.

On to the question.
I consider myself to be a virgin. I'm a lesbian, and I'm nineteen. I would like to lose my virginity. Now, I don't want it to be with some stranger that I'll never see again. But I'm not in a relationship, nor do I expect to be. There is one girl, well, I say girl, she's 21, that I would really like to lose my virginity to. She has a boyfriend, but I know she's had experiences with girls in the context of threesomes. She's definitely bisexual. I love this girl to bits, and I've known her since we were tiny (our mums are best friends, but they lived in a different country from us so we didn't see each other that often). She now lives around half an hour away from me. We see each other quite often, and she knows I'm a lesbian. I have a bit of a past history of abuse, and she knows about it. I would trust her with my life. My question is, if in the hypothetical scenario that her boyfriend would be fine with it, would asking her to take my virginity be a bad idea?
... I'll forever be the one who asked a bizarre question, won't I?

Cheers,
J

 

The question is, how would you feel mentally after it happened? Would you be jealous of her boyfriend? I think it would be ok if you went into it knowing that she is already in another relationship and are comfortable with it.However, if you would end up being resentful, I think it's better to wait until you are ready with another girl.

 

You have known her for a long time and are good friends right? I wouldn't want to complicate that with sex.

 

Do you have a good male friend?
When I was about 18, I had a very good friend that was a lesbian, and wanted to lose her virginity, but not to a stranger either, so we had an agreement that it would be a 1 time thing and that I would not fall in love. I treated it like a romantic date. Took her to a fancy restaurant, went out watching the sky because it was a spring night in early may. Then I went home with her and we made love. The next morning, I left and she went back to her partner that she had at the time. No strings attached. We still talk 21 years later, but she is into guys now. hmmmm