An extremely difficult problem I need help with - not a 'whine' but simply a petition

Hello.

I am a regular poster in this forum. However, I mainly stick to the Drugs subforums and most people there know me well. However, I have a very prickly situation that I need generalized advice for so I chose this sub-forum to post in. Please be aware, this is not a "whine" but a request for helpful criticism.

Ok. I am leasing a studio apartment in suburban Newark, Delaware. I leased this unit because I was accepted to a well-paying graduate position at the University of Delaware (I am giving more personal info than I like to but oh well...). I was expecting to be there for three years to obtain my Master's Degree in Mathematics. This would coincide with the end of my lease at the third year. Fine.

I have Schizoaffective Disorder which requires me to take a rank of rather cognitively blunting medications such as antipsychotics in order to control. My illness is controlled. Great. But I am severely handicapped by the medications. The school year started off fine back in August, but quickly problems became apparent. Graduate level theoretical math requires insane amounts of intelligence to begin with, and it requires an extremely 'quick' mind and 'creative thinking' that I have never encountered before. Despite working extremely hard (often 60 hours per week), I began to fail.

By the beginning of November, I had to meet with my professors. They knew about my condition but could not accomodate my needs any more. I simply could NOT perform to the department's standards because of my illness. Thus, I had to resign from the program.

THANK GOD my schizophrenic symptoms did not resurface with this blow. But I am in a bad place. Despite my apartment's leasing agreement seeming to indicate that a 30 day's notice for termination of work is sufficient to cancel the lease early, after communicating with them many times, they will not budge. Not only will they not let me end the lease 30 days from when I brought it to their attention, BUT they are forcing me to stay there until the end of the lease term: MAY.

I have no income whatsoever and my parents are working-class blue-collar employees with no disposable income to help me. I did nothing wrong here. I am simply a victim of my illness, BUT we all know that life is incredibly divisive and completely unfair, so I am in the position I am in now.

I would find a job, but the problem is that with my illness, I can not handle most types of work. I am too tired, too easily irritated, etc. to work retail for example (I have tried before and flipped out, slipping back to insanity). I COULD work in an office environment with little stress, BUT as we all know, those jobs are nearly impossible to get in this economy, especially with almost ZERO work experience like my case and a degree in Mathematics (not Math Education which is marketable).

I just want to know what I should do (other than continuing communication with the leasing people) because I run out of ALL money and assets by the end of THIS month (January).

Thanks.

 

I’d advise you to move back home with your parents and your support system. Ok so you failed this one time, you’ll get plenty of opportunities to succeed in the future in a less stressful environment.

Hotwater

 

I know a lot of places that make student sign a lease every year. So it's probably not a three year lease, but a lease that keeps getting renewed.

Where I live you have to give 60 days notice.

My advice: Sublet the apartment for the remaining months.

Also try looking around to see if there are any rent control advocacy groups in your area. Talk to them and see what they say.

 

If the terms of your lease say that you can quite on 30 days' notice, then give 30 days' notice and quit.

If in doubt, spend a little bit of money getting a lawyer to look at the lease agreement fo ryou and tell you exactly what you can do to break the lease, and how to do it.

 

Read your lease. Your landlord HAS to follow it. If it says 30 days you have nothing to worry about. If not, as someone else said, see about getting someone to sublet.

 

UPDATE: My parents, being extremely gracious, have decided to pay the rent until the lease expires. They have recently "come into some money" and don't want to see my credit score destroyed by my not being able to pay it. I am extremely grateful to them.

Also, I found a job listing for a well-paying job that I might be able to get, so possibly, I can get the job within a month or two and thus my parents will only have to fork over one month's rent.

Thanks for the replies. Thank you to my parents, too!

 

UPDATE 2:

Okay. So the rent situation is stabilized obviously. However, I have another looming problem that I need to address and I figured this would be the best thread to do it in considering how I already 'explained my situation' in detail in my Initial Post.

So, basically, I want and need to get a job. Like I mentioned in the first post, I was basically SCREWED out of a great position I had as a Graduate Teaching Assistant because I 'wasn't smart enough' (because I take fucking antipsychotics so I don't go on a killing spree...but that's beside the point....) which is really getting under my skin. Why? Because I can't seem to find a single job that I am qualified to do that has anything to do with my field. I am not even looking for jobs that I would ENJOY. Just jobs that pay in my field.

So, after talking to some people who know the field, with my B.S. in Pure Mathematics, since graduate school is not an option (the option that 99% of people with this degree take...) my only options are High School Teaching and Banking/Risk Management.

I do not want to teach High School. There are various reasons why, and I could literally write two to three pages single-spaced at a 12-point font describing why. I would go to work bitter and hating every minute of it.

So, banking. Not particularly exciting in my opinion, but it is the other option so I have been intensely examining the job openings at major banks in my area. The type of position I would want would be something entry level (since I have essentially NO work experience) in the analysis and risk management fields. However, to my sickened surprise, all of the jobs in that realm require 2-5 years of previous experience in the field. And not just in banking, but in RISK MANAGEMENT specifically. AND you need to know all of these weird programming and data entry languages that I have NEVER heard of.

So I don't know what to do here. I can't even snag an entry level position. It isn't as though those qualifications are "preferred but not necessary". No- they are minimum requirements. And since I have NO "NETWORK", I don't know what the Hell to do. I am not going to get a job working at a gas station not because I am "above it" but because I invested 5 greuling, miserable years of my life to earn my fucking Bachelor's Degree. So what the fuck am I supposed to do?

Keep in mind, I have fucking Schizoaffective Disorder, so I am pretty damned stressed out by this job shit-- moreso than the average person would be.

 

Does it have to be that particular field in banking? Or maybe just get your foot in the door where you can in banking. Seems here I've seen some motivated types move up in my local bank pretty rapidly. Granted it is a small local bank, not a national concern, but in a year or two of being hired they are behind a desk with their own office......

 

obviously schizoaffective disorder makes your situation a bit unique, but this is a problem that a lot of people are facing. I know someone with an English degree; he works in a bookstore. I know someone with a psychology degree; she works in ladies appearel.

You said retail isn't an option, but you may have to settle for something that doesn't require your degree until the job market improves.

It sucks, but this is just the reality of it.

 

I would settle for a shitty job but the problem is that a lot of those jobs are actually REALLY hard. By that, I mean that they are physically demanding or require you to keep your cool in stressful situations.

I lack the ability for either because of my condition - I am sedated severely all day and couldn't stand up for a long period of time. Neither could I handle an irate customer.

So I don't know what to do really...

 

The answers staring you in the face...become a drug dealer !!

Seriously though, try not to stress about this, maybe you just need some time off, where are you going in such a rush ?

Stop and smell the roses :sunny:

 

Trying to get into a bank teller position and getting your foot in the door may be a good idea, but you would have to deal with customers. But if you can get a foot in the door like Tyrsonswood said and then work hard and casually mention your degree to your supervisor one day, that could lead to good things. No employer wants to see someones talent go to waste.

 

Work what ever job u can get but still look for work where u want u need to work somewhere unless u want to be a worthless tick on societies ass

 

I hope you are joking. If not that is extremely rude. I suffer from a disabling condition and it isn't the same thing for me to work as it is for the average Joe. I actually am supported minimally by SSI. But unlike 99 percent of the people on that program, I want to work. It is about finding a job I can HANDLE as well as pays enough to be able to strike out on my own.

 

You're just going to have to look for any kind of work until something more suitable comes along. Are there no employment advisors in your area? Do you have a doctor who is aware of your limitations who could possibly help here or at least point you in the right direction? Sorry can't be of more help. Good luck!

 

What is your condition there are jobs you can do from home. I understand assistance for people with problems but to just completely take care of someone like a parent I find rude to the rest of us who have to work and have money taken from our checks to support people who won't work or don't want to work a job they find beneath them there is no job beneath any one there is respect in all work and I think u could try harder to find work

 

He's saying because of his medication he can't do anything physically demanding and because of his condition he can't work with people very well - which is, in fact, understandable. After all, no employer wants to hire someone that could potentially flip their shit on a customer.

Its not nice to judge someone's situation. yes, there are people that love sucking the teat of the government. I don't think that applies in this situation.

Is there another graduate degree you could possibly pursue in order to stay in school?

 

Thank you for clarifying things for the more ignorant people here. Not all people on "welfare" are losers. It is a bad stereotype. That is the main reason I want to get OFF of it.

As for other graduate degrees, I don't know if I could handle the heavy workload for something like medicine or pharmacy (which were ideas I was tossing around).

My psychotherapist mentioned something about career counseling. Not the thing for people with NO skills who can't even put a peg into a notch (not that I feel above those people- most of them are disabled as well), but for people with marketable skills who just don't know how to market them. She is looking in to it this week.

I need to find a balance between something intellectually stimulating but not overwork or something physically demanding or requiring long hours.

 

I understood what u were saying u didn't understand what I was saying. U are being too picky and I think u need to just get to work already u want something intellectually stimulating and it seems to me that ur just waiting around for that to come along. This I find to be wrong sure u should find something u can do inspite of ur problem but for now the criteria should end there. It's ignorant to call people ignorant for not agreeing with u.