An Aspect of your Personality that you've Corrected

One thing I've noticed about myself, is that sometimes when talking to someone I will look to the side to gather my thoughts. Now you might think there's nothing wrong with this, but if one does it too often it mightn't come across very well. It's better to just break eye contact as opposed to turning your whole head 90%. I've done this from time to time. I never would have thought it would have come across so badly until I saw this particular shoot at 0:51. When you watch it, it mightn't be something that you're even conscious of, but it is something that doesn't make him seem very confincing.



When I'd think back to things I've said during heated arguments, the things I'd be looking at, at the time I said things would be attached with that memory. I never took much notice of this about myself until I saw the clip of Ben Shapiro here

 

I'd love to be able to edit this!

 

Let's not forget what the intention of the thread was supposed to be.

 

Sure, I'll clarify. I mean an aspect of your personality that you have changed. For example, a bad habit.

One thing I've realised about myself is that I can be sneaky. I'd often try and say something that might hopefully get someone else think about something they perhaps felt too strongly about, in the hopes that they would say something silly and watch them make a fool of themselves on their own accord. It was only when I heard someone else giving out about another person (not me) for having this same trait that it made me question myself and how obvious it might be.

Oh yeah, and can I edit the original post?

 

At family gatherings--Thanksgiving--Christmas and other times, I was told by the adults when I'd speak up--"be quiet. Children are to be seen and not heard." That somehow really affected me for a portion of my life , even into adulthood. Hated having attention given to me--could not give speeches in class at all. Only time I wasn't bothered was fast pitching softball or playing basketball. I was good at both.

I corrected all that when I moved back to my hometown , started up a business, part of which was going door to door passing out pamphlets I had written. Meeting and working for many different kinds of customers enabled me to get over that aspect of my personality and of course for many, many years now--I can voice my opinion anywhere and everywhere and talk to anyone, bum or millionaire --with ease. Odd how "parents " can do shit that fucks a person up and not even realize it.

 

Who started the rumor that I've corrected anything...

Did I miss that memo or something?

 

The desire to alter personality is not uncommon. Shy people might wish they were more outgoing and talkative. Hot-tempered individuals might wish they could keep their cool in emotionally charged situations.

Is it really possible to change your personality, or are our basic personality patterns fixed throughout life? While self-help books and websites often tout plans you can follow to change your habits and behaviors, there is a persistent belief that our underlying personalities are impervious to change.


The Austrian psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud suggested that personality was largely set in stone by the tender age of 5.1 Even many modern psychologists suggest that overall personality is relatively fixed and stable throughout life.2


But what if you want to change your personality? Can the right approach and hard work lead to real personality change, or are we stuck with undesirable traits that hold us back from achieving our goals?


What Is Personality?

Factors That Shape Personality
To understand whether personality can be changed, we must first understand what exactly causes personality. The age-old nature versus nurture debate once again comes into play. Is personality shaped by our genetics (nature) or by our upbringing, experiences, and environment (nurture)?


In the past, theorists and philosophers often took a one-versus-the-other approach and advocated either for the importance of nature or nurture, but today most thinkers would agree that it is a mixture of the two forces that ultimately shape our personalities.3

How It Is Possible to Change Your Personality

Not only that, but the constant interaction between genetics and the environment can help shape how personality is expressed. For example, you might be genetically predisposed to being friendly and laid back, but working in a high-stress environment might lead you to be more short-tempered and uptight than you might be in a different setting.

Dweck relates a story of identical twin boys separated after birth and reared apart.4 As adults, the two men married women with the same first names, shared similar hobbies, and had similar levels of certain traits measured on personality assessments.


It is such examples that provide the basis for the idea that our personalities are largely out of our control. Instead of being shaped by our environment and unique experiences, these twin studies point to the power of genetic influences.


Genetics is certainly important, but other studies also demonstrate that our upbringing and even our culture interact with our genetic blueprints to shape who we are.

 

When I was a kid I was very shy.

Now I could address an audience of 100,000 people without any effort.


Thankfully shyness is the one aspect of a personality you can outgrow

 

I should have said demeanor!

Like for example, if someone is able to control their facial ticks, then I wouldn't say they are not changing their personality by this.

 

Personality is the special combination of qualities in a person that makes that person different from others, as shown by the way the person behaves, feels, and thinks.

I had corrected one of my behaviors. I used to interrupt by responding even before the other person had completed their dialogue. A colleague pointed this out with lot of frustration. I worked on it very hard to correct it and succeeded.
I don't know whether it is correction, but I have sure changed in terms of how I feel about some important things, like sexuality, relationships.
As a thinker, I had significantly changed course. Only to leave me an unhappy soul...

 

One aspect, I cannot change, is the fact, that I am a flirt.

 

I’ve been told I over analyse everything, tried not to so much but it just happens.

 

That is a good trait.

 

I bet you never noticed this with me Gal.
And you are never gonna believe this.
But I am a flirt too!

 

I have been known to tell someone to close their mouth and wait for their brain to catch up.

 

Of course. Especially with seagulls. Lol