I've had run ins with neponiatka and Bella recently and I wish to apologize. There are two issues at work here: 1) I have an aggressive communication style anyway; 2) I am embittered and disappointed by gender relations to a great degree, and it often makes it worse. Sometimes I'm able to let go of my resentment (which, it should be understood, is neither toward the posters mentioned above nor toward women generally, but toward the state of gender relations in my social millieu) and some other times I take it off on women I communicate with or meet --- hence my public apology; There are two ideas floating around that make my relationship with women (whom I love too much for my own good) strained. Those are: a) gender roles --- I particularly resent the role of initiator (whereas women are supposed to play the rejecting role); b) puritanism --- the idea that sex for sex's sake, and even a frank show of sexual desire is essentially a dirty practice, that should be avoided --- lest you get stds, or be a slut, or a dog, etc. ad naseum... Since I've had many discussions regarding the aforementioned, and since my opinions are somewhat dissonant with mainstream thought, I tend to have my arguments at the tip of my tongue, and go for the jugular. Even though I'm tremedously bitter in my solitude at this moment (partially because I see no way out), I'll try to ask questions more often than make affirmations, and listen to everyone's arguments as though I've heard them for the first time. But no guarantees, I have my weaknesses. Comments are appreciated.