Americans and Sex

So... America is probably 1000 times more oversexed than any other country in this world.

Why, oh why?

I know that it's easy to blame on the media... but what do you think are all the other reasons behind it?

It's just sad to see every single teen thinking that he cannot be a complete person without getting laid, people constantly obsessing over sex, people feeling insecure of their bodies because of it, and people controlling each other just through sex.

Ofcourse, it feels good... but why don't people surpass that feeling in order for it to not consume their lives?

 

americans + sex = hypocracy.

the american way is all about carelessness and thoughtlessness and the idea that belief and idiology somehow relieve people of the moral responsibility to persue a factual understanding of the real connection between priorities and probabilities.

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Well I never did. I waited, I was 18 at the time, and it was with my husband who I loved with all of my heart (although we weren't married yet *looks sheepish*). I was glad that I waited. It's not like I didn't have urges, because I did. I just was too afraid to act upon them, and I didn't feel ready. Plus, I knew that I would get insanely attached and I knew the guys that I tended to gravitate towards were not at all ready to settle down into long-term relationships. So for me, it was a self protection thing. I didn't want to get hurt in the end, plus, I never really felt in love with any of them, and for me, love was very important before deciding to have sex.

In addition to that, I had very strict parents who preached the importance of waiting, and my mother continously told me that only "bad girls" had sex, and I was lead to believe that my body was something to be ashamed of.

Not really a healthy attitude to have, I know. And I don't ever want my kids to be ashamed of their bodies, or feel that sex is bad. However, I do want them to really think things through before deciding, and when the time comes for me to talk about those issues with them, I will be sure to let them know. I mean, they've got their whole lives to have sex. Why rush it?

 

i have sex, i like it. it is frequently on my mind. less and less anymore, though, since i have kids. i think there's a lot of sex drive competitiveness, which i find bizarre and annoying. but that's their troubles. nothing more annoying than the old "i'm so horny all the time i orgasm in the first 3 seconds of physical contact" bs talk. yeah, sometimes you can get off really fast, it's a mental thing, i guess, maybe a hormonal thing, too. but all the time? total bull.

but i have to admit, if i'm not getting laid fairly regularly by my husband, i DO begin to feel less-than, i don't feel as attractive or happy. i think it's just a chemical thing in my head, that endorphin release, something. it's where i feel comfortable expressing myself physically. some people dance, i have sex with my husband.

 

Yeah, I can't go too long without it either, I start feeling super irritable and, like you said KC, unattractive. So yes, I have sex with my husband too.

 

The answer your question, the answer is me. I bring up the average considerably.

As an example, last year I went to London for a few weeks, and suddenly all the surveys started saying that Britian was the most oversexed country. When I came back, the polls went back to saying that it was the U.S.

So, ummmm, my bad.

 

America is oversexed because of the media which serves as the primary souce of controlling the masses and what they think. Everything happens for a reason, and there is a reason why America is oversexed. But I won't get into it since it would likely attract ridicule from people who are too conditioned to see the light. Let me just say that no empire has ever lasted and has eventually toppled due to its own decadence. America is fast heading in that direction.

 

Nope, I'm pretty sure that it's because of me.

 

Sex wasn't my top priority when I was a teenager and in fact I didn't have sex until I was 20. I have it quite frequently now though because I happen to really like it.

 

I don't think that America's problem with sex is how much people want to have it though, I think the problem is that people teach their daughters that having sex is wrong and you should always say no while at the same time teaching their sons that having sex is what they are supposed to do and to just ignore girls when they say no. It just causes confusion.

People's way of dealing with sex is the problem, not sex... sex is great.

 

I see a lot of sex in this society, but very little love.

 

well, we treat it like it's a taboo topic while we're raising our children, and anything taboo is naturally more interesting. not to mention that it feels really really good. so, it's a double whammy.

 

The media certainly doesn't treat it like it's taboo.

 

It kinda makes one wonder if the people in the media are getting laid more than the rest of us.

 

it's a mixed signal. parents certainly do. and while you're a great fan of believing in the mind control of the media, not every parent follows their lead. how many times have i seen parents okay with their children watching people being blown to bits or eaten by a monster while at the same time racing into the room to change the channel during a love scene? too many times.

 

Well, I agree with you there. A lot of it has to do with the parents' conditioning as well. However, I don't think most parents view sex as being as taboo as some people like to think. Maybe some very religious families, but that's a small minority. This country is pretty much oversexed right across the board, which ties in with the high divorce rates.

 

no doubt. we're in agreement there.

 

This conversation is boring. That should never have happened in a thread about sex.

 

*snicker*

 

Yeah sex wasn't a top priority to me when I was a teenager either. Didn't have it til I was 17.

It seems kids are "growing up" faster and faster now days though.