am i selfish?

I've been thinking about joining the military lately (Canadian Forces) to be honest, my grades aren't that well at all (senior year, my class average is about 40-50%) so i'm not going to get into a university or colledge, not that i really want to anyways... so, i don't have many options...

but, i've been wanting to join the military for a few years now, once i graduate i plan on going off for my Basic Military Qualifications training for 14 weeks, but the thing is... my girlfriend is completed devastated that i'm leaving, she honestly cries every time i even talk about it, i can see why i suppose, i won't be able to see her for 14 weeks, almost 4 months... And even after that, i will have even more training specific to which career path within the military i want to follow...

And she's worried about me being deployed and possibly killed obviously, but, do you think its selfish of me to go join? Me and her have always kind of planned on being together forever, is it fair for me to just leave her like this? I know i'll be back eventually, but what about years from now? when i have to leave the country for months if not years at a time... what if we have a kid? She'll be stuck at home alone with a baby, i won't be there as much as i'd like to be there...

but on the other hand, i just have a really strong feeling towards joining the military, there are a lot of reasons as to why i want to join, so its a very complex decision here... its not fair for her if i go, yet... is it fair to me if i stay? I want to stay, because i love her, but i also really want to join the military...

also, i feel as if i won't be able to provide for her if i don't join, i can't see myself in any other career or job, she says she doesn't care about money... but i'm sure in a few years when she can't afford to eat she will, so i feel as if its my responsibility to join the military, but back to the question... is it selfish of me?

 

Honestly no.

It sounds like it is something that you've really looked into and want. And tbh I appluade you it's brave t o want to put yourself up like that for your ( and mine) country.

I also think if you don't and you end up in some job you hate you will always be questioning what if.

She should also be understanding as well and I think that while yes the time apart would be very hard, if she loves you she should encourage you to peruse this.

Relationships are a 2 way street.

My husband hates his job atm, and we are looking at huge changes in the new year and while it's a scarey prospect I got his back on it type thing.

 

I wanted to do that myself. I have always regreted that I didn't.

Check out this site maybe (for her): http://canadianmilitaryspouse.ning.com/

Good luck to you!

 

lol... what exactly does the Canadian military do? Keep the country safe from Bear Cavalries?

 

You either want a career choice or you dont.. Can you earn money fucking your girlfriend? There's always is the porn industry..

 

Canada has a military ???

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o5gqILMUfaU"]Monty Python - Self Defence Against Fresh Fruit - YouTube

 

No. You have to make a living somehow right? That’s not selfish, nor is it shellfish, but it's not selfish.

 

Don't forget:

 

you have to make money, and you want to do it?

then do it man, its not selfish ...

 

Shoot for the stars

 

are you prepared to kill people if you are ordered to? are you prepared to die?

are you prepared to suffer ptsd, have limbs blown off, etc?

being willing to take such risks is part of the job if you join the military

 

all you dumb asses making fun of the Canadian military must be uneducated... Apparently you don't understand how much we've contributed in WW1 and WW2, plus helping you sorry ass americans right now, do you think we have to be there? no. We risk our troops lives to help YOU, so i don't understand why you would disrespect, I'd like to see you guys go through Canadian military training...

 

Yes, i'm fully aware of the dangers, advantages, and disadvantages

 

chill out man, they're just joking around.

 

well maybe they were, but many people actually think that stuff, and its just ignorant, how is ignorance funny? why would you like people disrespecting the people who died for your freedom?

 

If you wanna do it, that's fine.

But it would be selfish if you expected her to wait for you, during one of the best, most exciting times of her life, while you go off and do macho things and risk your life, meaning she could end up even wasting this part of her life in vain.... And there's a high probability that you'll cheat on her during this waste of her life, TOO.

So no, it's not selfish, but expecting to keep a girlfriend and do it is.

*edit* well, selfishness and cockyness go hand in hand, and you seem to be a cocky fuck. Why would you think other forumgoers who are not in the military would have a harder time with canadian military training than you would, as you're not in the military yet, either? What about those of us who are IN the military, in a variety of countries around the world? I'm not even sure where you found that high horse of yours.

 

they aren't disrespecting anyone. making jokes about our military being small doesn't mean they're shitting on the graves of war veterans.

 

Not to mention the absurdity of saying that any western/NATO coalition force soldiers who died in the last few decades died for ANYONE's freedom to do ANYTHING, except the freedom to build evil empires all over the world and keep the world hating us.

Those who have died deserve the utmost sympathy, for being tricked into dieing for an evil cause while thinking they're fighting for freedom.

I find OP's statement that those people died in the name of freedom highly disrespectful to many thousands of good people who have died for nothing at all, other than an evil expansionist government.