I've just recently become sexually active, and every time we have sex, my boyfriend asks me if I came. I know for a fact that what is happening between us is not an orgasm, but I don't know what I am expecting. When I masturbate, I feel a small build up and my vagina is pulsing, but the release is small and not like all the cosmo articles and forums describe it. I get the muscle spasms throughout my body, but they are small and no very euphoric. Is that an orgasm? Is there any way that it gets better than that? Can my boyfriend help?
I can't tell you. My orgasms are very intense and I feel like telling you that, the moment you have an orgasm, you know you're having it. If you doubt, then it isn't an orgasm. But women are so different, what works for me may not work for you, our orgasms aren't necessarily of the same type. How do you feel after your orgasms? Do you feel like you can't go on, like you're hypersensitive after one? I do. Not all women do, though. About cosmo articles and forums, people write so much BS, don't take it seriously. If what you're feeling feels good, that's what really matters.
I'd suggest continuing with stimulation. Many women get a series of orgasms. Lucky men do, tool and it is a teachable skill. Set aside time to masturbate, and don't stop on the first waves but keep going. Also, PIV sex isn't always the best way to come. Sometimes the physics of it all aren't well matched.
http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?t=265511 If you have to ask then the chances are you haven't but it may still be good. The one thing I failed to mention about orgasm is the vagina clamps down on the penis until you cant or its very difficult to pull out. This is what sends a guy through the roof.
