Am i Gay i dont know yet im only 16

I am only 16 and I love girls, and dream the sort of stuff i want to do with girls, however sometimes, I get urges to give a blowjob on a nice stiff warm cock and I just cant dream with a girl like that. I also like the look of cocks and would like to hold someone elses big one. I do not however know if I would like or want anal sex as it just looks and guessing feels horrible. I also dont want to be gay and usually hate gays, now i may start hating myself. It is also a lot less hassle not to be gay but I want to be sure. I also wouldnt have the same confidence in a man as in a woman or would I.

 

When I was 16, I had strong desires for both guys and gals, too. Having bisexual feelings is quite commonplace during the two to three years following puberty, so don't feel that you're "wierd" by having them now.

Depending on your living circumstances -- your home environment, your neighborhood, your social climate at school, what town or city you live in -- you could go either way: straight, gay or bi. As you grow older, one of those three orientations will predominate over the other two.

In my case, my attraction to girls fell dormant when I reached my 20s and for the next two decades, I was exclusively gay. Then as I hit my 40s, my attraction to women re-awakened. My attraction to guys never wavered (In fact, to this day, I'm more easily turned on by guys -- especially guys with long hair, old hippie that I am -- than girls) , so I came out of the closet twice -- first as a gay man in 1982 and as bisexual in 1993. I'll turn 52 in April and I've been "out" now for 27 years -- over half my lifetime.

Whatever you do, don't allow fear to dominate your life in regard to the course of your sexuality. Whichever direction your orientation takes you as you grow older, accept it as a natural part of you and don't allow ANYONE to convince you that it's wrong. To the contrary, it's a gift from God.

-- Skeeter

 

Thanks for that. I now have some more things to say, I also love transexuals as they have the body of a woman and also a penis and I would just love to have sex with one, a fantasy of mine for ages and I really want to forfill it.

 

Well, if it will help your self-esteem, consider this: I, too, am attracted to transgendered women. I've long believed that bisexual men make better male partners for transwomen than straight men, for the simple reason that bi men -- especially those who are out of the closet, like I am -- would be more accepting of transwomen than straight guys would be.

Conversely, I tend to believe that transwomen would be more accepting of bi men than straight women would be, but I'm not in a position to say that with absolute certainty, since I'm not transgendered.

-- Skeeter

 

When I was 16 I wanted to spend as much time alone in my car, take drives to another county and devour doughnuts like Homer Simpson. I never had fantasies about girls and when I thought of guys they were usually twice my age. I never wanted to be hurt or feel any pain.
Now I dream of safer sex. I don't want to do anything that causes me or another person hurt or pain. Age matters less