Am I doing it wrong?

Discussion in 'Random Thoughts' started by kokujin, Sep 10, 2012.

  1. kokujin

    kokujin Senior Member

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    People don't really ask me to hang anymore. I had some best friends, but they've since moved or fell out of contact. ATM, I have people I see @ mutual places, and we'll shoot the shit there. I have 1 group that constantly invites me out (good for them), but I am finding unless It's my idea to go kick it, I don't hear jack shit from 90% of others. And it sounds whiney as hell to say "Yo, so how come you don't hit me up to kick it??" so I'm just left confused.

    Also I am re-realizing I am once again too open and nice (even if I STFU, it's in my natural nature). This makes socializing hard because I can't keep it casual (unless I'm drinking and I'm bouncing amongst many people), and I can't play apathy-wars which I guess is what everyone else seems to be doing.

    And fuck critisizing my personality. There's nothing wrong with it..[in fact I think trying to stifle it or tailor it to not scare away others has made me more unhappy]. It just doesn't fit in nicely with cool-and-aloof western society, I guess. Anyone else share the same position?

    What have you done? Tell me about it...
     
  2. MattB

    MattB Member

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    How old are you? From like early to mid twenties people just get busy more often than in the past fee years.
     
  3. dixie_pixy

    dixie_pixy HighMandi

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    I feel the same way sometimes.
    I ignore it. Occasionally we go out with other people, but it's usually us inviting them out. Sometimes it's the other way around.
    It's no big deal. Everyone's just busy with their families or work or school or something.
    Don't take it personal. I'm sure there are people that like you as a person, just don't have a lot of time to go out.
    We all have to rotate and balance our time.
     
  4. Pressed_Rat

    Pressed_Rat Do you even lift, bruh?

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    I've found that most people aren't worth the time. That is the misanthrope in me talking.
     
  5. Lodog

    Lodog Senior Member

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    I love socializing. I can hang with anyone because I always try to see the good in people.

    Someone already mentioned it, but many people grow distant as responsibilities grow. If I feel I need to socialize, but can't leave the house I can always just come here.
     
  6. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    yeah, most of my friends are married or have kids, or both. even the single ones don't really "hang" like they used to.

    i'm fine with it, 99% of the time i'd rather drink a beer with you guys than real people anyway. when i've had enough of it i can just click the little x in the corner.
     
  7. StpLSD25

    StpLSD25 Senior Member

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    Get a license and a car, dude. Seriously! Changed my life!
     
  8. Lodog

    Lodog Senior Member

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    I've had a valid license since I was 16 and I currently own 2 cars.

    I'm just bogged down with fatherly duties.
     
  9. Tyrsonswood

    Tyrsonswood Senior Moment Lifetime Supporter

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    I don't really know anybody where I live so I ain't no help...
     
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    buy a dog..
     
  11. Meliai

    Meliai Members

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    You said you have one group that constantly invites you out?

    Sounds good to me.
     
  12. kokujin

    kokujin Senior Member

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    I'm 26. In a transition between finishing school and getting a job [abroad]. I suppose you could say it's about that time people fall out of touch.


    The self-conscious shit I'll just have to deal with myself, but it has become harder to regularly see people now that I'm not taking classes, and partying @ campus on the weekends. :/
     
  13. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    you could always just be the creepy older guy that still parties with the college kids.
     
  14. kokujin

    kokujin Senior Member

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    I look 22 :) Helps that I'm 5'8. School took me a while :D I think I don't do a great job hiding me self-consciousness and it could be "heavy brah" for people.
     
  15. Lodog

    Lodog Senior Member

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    There are some college kids I work with and I hang out with after work, but they invite me over. I had a crisis in my mind about it, but they like my company so fuck it.
     
  16. daisymae

    daisymae Senior Member

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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bnlv1wd13fY"]Dazed & Confused - High school Girls - YouTube
     
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