I was seeing this guy for about a month when he broke up with me. He broke up with me because he has plans to move to New York next June and he didn't want to make it harder on us to say good-bye. But he said he still really likes me and wants to be my friend. So last night he calls me after got back from the bar and asks me to come over. I do being the "friend" that I am. I wasn't there for 10 mins and he starts making notions that he wants to have sex. I didn't, because I felt like the only reason that he called me was to get laid. I really don't know what the fuck he wants. I don't know if he just wants a fuck buddy or a friend or what. I'm just really confused. Any input would be awesome.
Oh my! I'm probably the wrong person to be replying to THIS one! As in my experience......most men don't think with the correct head and seem to use their sexual needs to emotionally blackmail women. It's a very rare, to stumble across a man, who isn't worried about getting laid, while most woman are more concerned with being "emotionally in tune with their mate, which, also men can't understand, that if a woman feels "emotionally in tune" with her partner, respected, loved, etc, then "making love" is just natural to follow, however sex is just sex, with no emotional attachments & don't know any woman who just wants to be thought of as a "fuck Buddy". Did he know a month ago, when he got involved with you, that he'd be moving to NY? If so, guess it was selfish of him to become involved only to break it off so quickly, not to mention, only a month into any relationship is much to soon to be able to tell if it has a future....course that's just my opinion. Watch for my "new discussion" and you will see why I feel the way I do. My sugjestion: Don't allow yourself to be emotionally blackmailed, don't settle for just a romp in the hay...unless of course that's what you want. HE was the one to break it off, not you. And last but not least, communication! Course it doesn't mean he will comprehend or understand, so it's more for your own peace of mind to speak honestly of how you feel & what ya want!! Best Wishes! Hugs, Sunshine & Smiles!
Ugh how rude! In my experiences, everytime a guy calls you late at night and wants you to come..he wants to get laid. especaily if its after he's been drinking! well if u dont want be a fuck buddy with him..then i say ditch him!
Agreed he is using you for sex. If you are not down with that little game then tell him, no thanks. I did the same thing with someone on and off for about a year when I was between relationships. The only reason it worked for us is because we both knew what it was upfront and we both wanted it that way. But if he has to manipulate you or trick you, then that is just not cool. You deserve better treatment than that. But it isn't just men who do this, I've seen an increasingly number of females doing this as well. I'm not sure why though.
You got the booty call, just be aware there is no future relationship as he has made it clear already, he's moving. Don't fall for this it hurts too much, been there done that.
