Am I Being Unreasonable?

I am having an issue in my relationship and hoping to get some advice from both a man and woman's perspective. I worked in the adult entertainment industry for about 8 years. I won't get into specifics but I will say that my line of work required me to have sex with other men. I started dating someone about 3 months ago that I met while I was working and things got serious pretty quickly. Shortly after dating, he expressed how much my line of work hurt him but being that our relationship was so new I was hesitant to quit at that stage. A lot of problems arose in just a short time as it bothered him so much that it stressed him out all of the time. After only being with him a month, I agreed to quit my job to give our relationship a fair chance. Since then, he is still having issues dealing with what I did even though I have not worked since then. I try to be understanding and patient and have no problem talking him through it for as long as I have to. I still have my work e-mail and a google voice number which I have turned off all notifications. The problem for me is now he is wanting me to completely delete my work e-mail and phone number altogether. I do love him and have no objections over this in the future but I feel like at this stage of only being together 3 months I don't feel comfortable completely wiping everything out. My biggest fear is that if things don't work out, then I will no longer have an income until I can find another job and being a single mom that is not something I am willing to do right now especially after he has broken up with me twice in the last month. Am I just being selfish and unreasonable?

 

he's an insecure douche , just say good bye

 

I don't think he's insecure, but he shouldn't expect you to change because of him. He just needs to date someone who isn't in this industry. You can break up with him too, if you feel like your line of work is more important than him. Everyone here has choices, no one is forced to remain in this relationship, if you both don't feel like you can compromise.

 

You may find yourself in a situation where he never gets over your past occupation. Do what is best for you.
Maybe a new career is in your future. Your current relationship not so much

 

yes.....because he is insecure about ''in the industry'' despite actually meeting her from what I gather as a paying client''....he wanted to fuck her as a sex worker but didnt want to fuck her as a retired sex worker....for free lol......lots of dudes are insecure about high numbers of penises that came before them

''came before them''......come on d that's a good line

 

Yeah, that's pretty good.

Maybe he should pay her, then his mind might accept it.

Of course, I'm kidding OP. I would probably not stay with him, because he is going to make you feel bad about your life choices.

 

if he isn't willing to date an ex-sex worker, why the hell did he decide to date an ex-sex worker? he sounds kind of stupid.

 

I can answer this

because ex sex -workers are awesome

 

not to be confused with ''ex sex''....which is just sadness

 

I dunno. If I was dating a sex worker I'd probably want her to stop being a whore, and I'm not turned off by promiscuous women or anything but just that, I dunno. I'd be fine for her to still be promiscuous and include me, but for her to go out on her own all the time for sex work, I wouldn't want that on my conscious, she better off being single IMO.

 

its different when you know them....ftr ive only been platonic with several.....not for lack of trying

80s

 

Oh I could imagine that. I like getting to know them too, for 45min

 

yeah, but OP's boyfriend doesn't seem to think so.

 

Many a true word spoken in jest. This somewhat fetish fantasy exists.

I knew a girl some years ago who had worked in the sex industry. Having regular clients, she started to want a relationship with a few of them. However the moment that she invited them for unpaid sex, they lost all interest and vanished into the abyss. She later discovered that they had gone straight back to the agency and asked for a different girl. She knew without any doubt that these were not guys cheating on their partners or afraid of commitment, it was simply a bizarre and well known fetish.
A few years later, she really fell in love with a guy and did not want to loose him the same way, so she continued to feed his fantasy..
I last saw her about 5 years after she married the guy and she was still paid every time that they had sex. The following day, she simply paid the money back into their joint bank account and although he must have realized, it was never spoken about
In fact, a large percentage of other girls working for the agency were married and their husbands accepted the situation. I imagine that their £1000 a night fees may have had something to do with that,
Quite a good salary in the 1970s when a top of the range Mercedes cost less than £2000 and you could afford a London house within 3 months. LOL.

Certain fantasies seem stranger than fiction, but they exist.

 

^ so i wonder where i can find a woman with that fetish?

 

You have the right to do whatever you want with your own body. Don't let anyone tell you different. Sex work is still work.

I'd break up with this guy. Smash the patriarchy. Seriously. Who does he think he is?

 

A control freak. Pretty big red flag.

 

Yeah I concur. He knew the score going in. He's a bloody child. Its give and take. His insecurities are massive by the sounds of it. You've jumped through hoops for him by the sounds of it. He doesn't deserve you. You were working taking care of your kid he really has no right at all to put demands on you. He should be counting himself lucky there would be plenty of guys that would love to be in his position.

 

Look at it this way, he found you attractive and began a relationship, now he wants to change you, RUN GIRL, run as fast as you can away from him, he doesn't want you, he wants a puppet, and even then, he still won't be happy.

 

Sounds immature. He knew what he was getting in to. Basically, no, you're not being unreasonable.