ok so, I have been planning this tattoo for awhile and I found a artist who is a friend of one of my friends. He works at a well known shop here in town but he is going to be doing my tat at his house. The whole reason he wants to is because he gets to pocket all the money(at the same time giving me a discount, but Im not sure how much at this point.) so I don't know who is giving the bigger favor. We make plans to meet and chill at his house 8:30 on Wed. night. to get some drawing laid down and when 8:30 rolled around he was no where to be found. And I cant help it...one of my biggest pet peeves is people that make plans and just stand you up with no phone call or even a simple text message to say you aren't going to be there. We called him a few times after 8:30 but his phone was simply dead. I was hoping he was in jail because its one of the few excuses I would be ok with. I at least wanted to know since I wasted an entire night when I could have been doing other things. He finally calls my friend today and tells him that his brother has cancer and that he was in the hospital and he turned his phone off and secluded himself for a few days...... my friend was like "well I understand" and of course my thought is well I don't. I don't mean to be insensitive when I say that he could have sent a simple message to the people waiting on him that even talked to him that very day to tell them that you aren't going to be able to be there? no matter how bad the reason. I just dont get it....SOOOO my question is, Am I being selfish?
I am always early for everything I do, I don't want to be late and I also don't like others to be late. Maybe he can't handle a family crisis as much as you can't handle being stood up or called?
^ yeah I was curious what it was going to be. But you are right tazer....maybe he really cant handle grief. I shouldn't be so upset about it. I thought the dude was dead or in jail for two days.
I also hate tardiness and no-shows but.. If you just found out your brother had cancer, would you care about work?
Hey if he's good , it will be worth it . And much cheaper . I can't stand undependable people either , but sometimes shit happens . Give em the ben. of the doubt .What's the tat. you want to get ?
His brother apparently has had cancer for awhile. I'm still going to give him a chance. The tat is going to to a traditional styled mermaid with 6 Shakti like arms. its going to be quite detailed. It will be a half sleeve on my right arm. when i finally get it drawn ill post some pictures.
It is important to me also that those I am counting on explain when they cannot be there no matter the reason. Even in this case, it is not beyond reason that it be expected. Yes, learning of a loved one's cancer is a crisis, but often not a time-sensitive crisis that would prohibit one from using manners with their network of friends.
if he actually just discovered that his brother has cancer and was in the hospital, then I think you can let him off the hook sounds like a giant steaming pile of horseshit though
I don't exactly understand your question. Are you asking if you're being selfish because you think his excuse is lame? Well, maybe as a friend you should have some understanding, however if the relationship is more professional than buddy-buddy, the dude should be ready to face the consequences. Personally, I wouldn't get the tattoo done in your house, I would go to the shop. You get what you pay for, as you're beginning to experience.
^ I was asking if I was being selfish because it really pissed me off that he stood me up. I'm definitely over it now. I think you are right Frieden, I'm going to go into the shop. I might have to pay a little more but his art is soooo worth it. I don't know the guy very well but he is really close with a friend of mine. This way he treats me like any other business client that would walk in the door.
