Alternative relationship

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by barefoot_boy, Jun 5, 2004.

  1. barefoot_boy

    barefoot_boy Member

    I've been going out with my girlfriend for four years,but we broke up
    for a while two years ago.While we were broke up I tried going witha guy for the first time.It was oral sex,and masturbating each other.I loved it.
    I told my ex about it and we ended up getting back with each other
    and she's okay that I have sex with men providing it's safe.
    The only thing is I've met this guy and he wants to try anal sex.I,ve
    never done this before.I think this is going too far for my girlfriend.
    She's fine that Im bisexual.If theres limits.
    I don't know what to do.I've been with several guy's and she knows about this
    but She might not like what I want to do now. She'll probably want to break up with me.I don't know what to do.
  2. Sunburst

    Sunburst Fairy

    Honey, if she doesn't want you to, I wouldn't.

    Think about it: What's more important to you; Her, or the momentary satisfaction of sex?
    But on the other hand, you do have to experiment. Talk to her about it, say how you feel and how happy you are that she's been this open-minded so far. good luck!:)
  3. EroticCookie

    EroticCookie Guest

    I just have one question for you. Are you alright with the idea of having another guy having sex with her? If you two have a swinging relationship then that's great but if not...hummm...I would avoid it.
  4. chickabean

    chickabean Senior Member

    do you really? i beg to differ...
  5. Lew_Cipher

    Lew_Cipher Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

    Take it in the ass if you think you'll like it. You probably will. Tell your g/f first. Let her object. It's your life.
  6. meishka

    meishka Grease Munky

    too an extant he should. but his relationship should come first if thats wat u mean wen u oppose experimenting
  7. MaxPower

    MaxPower Kicker Of Asses

    Do what you want to do, not what your gf wants you to.
  8. soulrebel51

    soulrebel51 i's a folkie.

    like a couple others said before, if you really like her and if shell break up with you if you do this then dont do it. unless you dont want to be with her anymore. but just remember use protection if you do go through with this, male on male anal sex withno condoms is how HIV/AIDS is spread
  9. peacefuljeffrey

    peacefuljeffrey Senior Member

    Is this all people know about relationships? Everything is Me Me Me, everyone should just do whatever the hell pleases them, and never give a thought to maybe compromising or sacrificing for the good of a relationship with someone they love, huh?

    Do you people really believe that relationships work when each person engages in unbridled selfishness? Or is the whole idea, "Screw relationships; they just keep you from doing what you want"?

    I think it's really sad that people can be so self-absorbed that they can't even realized that screwing around outside of a relationship is not healthy for that relationship, and sadder that they won't give up the luxury of screwing around in favor of a real love relationship.

  10. xthevalkyriex

    xthevalkyriex Member

    Funny...I thought HIV was spread by ANY sort of unprotected sexual contact.

    In any event, don't do it. If you find yourself thinking about it day and night, then break up with your girlfriend-it obviously means more to you than she does.
  11. soulrebel51

    soulrebel51 i's a folkie.

    yes thats true, but only if 1 of the people was already infected. two noninfected males could infect each other, since anal sex tears the lining of the innerass, exchanging ones red blood cells with the others sperm cells. i think thats how it works
  12. beachmonkey

    beachmonkey Member

    So have him use a condom, and enjoy! You'll love it...
  13. TheStoon

    TheStoon Member

    This had better be a joke.
  14. sugrmag

    sugrmag Uber Nerd

    Uh, I believe you are mistaken, if I'm reading this correctly. HIV cannot spontaneously appear if neither person has it. What kind of sex-ed is your school teaching?? A person can only contract HIV from someone who already has it!!! It doesn't just form because of anal sex. That is ridiculous.
  15. pasimachus

    pasimachus Member

    It is true that there are many ways to transmit HIV. However, if you're into playing Russian roulette, if one partner is infected some sex acts have a greater risk than others. Another way of putting this is that with certain sex acts, the chance of getting lucky and NOT transmitting HIV is better than with others. I believe what started this discussion off was that somebody remembered hearing that anal sex is a particularly efficient way of transmitting HIV, especially if the "bottom" is the one to whom the virus is being transmitted. Both anuses and vaginas are full of sensitive tissues that very easily absorb fluids and the virus. A penis, when entering a partner, has less sensitive tissues directly exposed to the partner's fluids which may have the virus- in other words, the virus has to go in through the tip of the penis. It definitely happens and is a major risk, although a bit lower risk than the other way around. Not to be chanced either way, in my and most sensible peoples' opinion.
  16. Evie Snatch

    Evie Snatch Member

    exactly. if you love the woman and want to be with her, can't you just put aside the curiosity of male sex? if you're not truly not 'satisfied,' maybe it's not the problem of toggling between the two options that you should be worried about, but whether or not you ought to be seaking a full-time male relationship.
  17. soulrebel51

    soulrebel51 i's a folkie.

    for my post regarding HIV, that is exactly what was taught in my health class. Ive done some reading on and realized that my post was completly inaccurate. looks like anti homosexualization is taught in schools, which isnt that much of a shock.
  18. peacefuljeffrey

    peacefuljeffrey Senior Member

    Dude, stay in fuckin' school.
    And when you go back in the fall, try to stay awake in class.

    Is "innerass" an anatomical term you learned in health class?

    What do red blood cells and sperm have to do with spreading HIV?

    How can tearing "the lining of the innerass" result in an HIV infection between two noninfected males??

    Are you really this ignorant on the subject?

    The fact is that if HIV is present in the semen of an infected partner, it is considered easy to transmit the infection to an anal sex partner because of the thinness of the membranes inside the rectum, and the fact that trauma to the area during sex can expose the receiver's bloodstream to the virus.

    Blue skies,
  19. barefoot_boy

    barefoot_boy Member

    I posted this thread a long time ago and nobody replied to
    it until recently.I just think it's important to be upfront with your sexual
    partners.Condoms aren't 100% safe.That's why I know gay men who don't have anal sex.Theres also Gay men who don't have sex whatsoever.I guess I
    was like that at one time.Not willing to admit things to myself.Scared
    of everything.
  20. Pablo

    Pablo Member

    Its not all black and white, some exploring is worth it if it means that much to you, but sometimes it becomes just trying everthing you can think of and justifying it as exploration, it sounds dangerous to me, but you must above all be honest with yourself when deciding if its right. Though if you dont mean to be in a steady relationship with someone, i think you shouldent have sex, its bad for the body and the soul (soul meaning the mind and emotions).

    If you want flat strait forward advice, have your girlfriend do you up the ass with a strap on. Its safer and your not straying from her.

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