all the loney people...where do we all belong???

Ever notice how there's so many lonely people. Everybody wants someone to save them, heal them, awaken them. I've met tons of people (myself included) waiting for somebody to come and make their lives better.... I've never met anybody who said, "Wow. I feel like saving somebody."

so where do us lonelies expect these heroes to come from???

i want a nice, strong, rocker to lead me out of suburbia and take me places I've never imagined....

yeah, but I just realized.... what the fuck!?!?!?! I mean, I kinda expect some messiah to drop from the sky or some shit like that. too many love songs, and now I expect too much.

ahhhh just some random thoughts.... what do y'all think... lemme know.

woo too much thought. brain fart.

 

im not lonely...i live life in the fast lane...hell yeah...


not really though

 

my hero has been working for a non-profit. It is better than any man who could sweep me out of suburbia. It has allowed me to appreciatte what I have instead of wish I was in more alternative enviorments. It has allowed to to suubside on a fixed income with dignity because I am giving up money for peace of mind. It has allowed me to utilize my education without joining the yuppies. You will find your niche, it just may not be where you expect it. Yu may not be a loner when you find other people with whom you don't feel alone.

 

You're lonely because you're not exposing yourself to anything. Go outside.

 

must be the season of the penny lanes

i don't know where anyone lonely belongs

a public erotorium perhaps

if there were such things

but i know where i belong

not in a world of symbolic personal gain
at the price of reall shaired and environmental loss

not in a world of austentation, gratuitous conventionality, automobiles,
aggressiveness or little green pieces of paper

but a world where nature, tecnology and creativity
are harmoniously, sustainably and gratifyingly
intigrated and balanced

that is where i belong
and my one and only motivation

nor would i wish to impose it on anyone who would be unhappy
to live in it
but only that i and whoever else might wish to
be allowed to live in it

everyone else can live however they damd well see fit
as long as the're not destroying it


=^^=
.../\...

 

civilization is a sad n lonly landscape .....im all for scrapping it totaly n living !!!

 

justin, the problem with scrapping civilization totally, is that civilization is already here, and had been here for thousands of years. it's within our very DNA. in essence, on some level, we're stuck with it. we can run away, live by ourselves in the mountains and wilderness, but somehow it follows. human beings are social animals, we are language-speakers and image-makers and tool-users by our very nature. civilization is part of who we are. perhaps it may be necessary to restructure or redefine "civilization", technology, society, culture...but we can't make either of those things go away. we can't run from them and we can't chase them away with "armed revolution", either, because civilization, and all the benefits and problems inherent to it, is within us.

it makes a nice fantasy, however. and therein i think lies the reason why so many of us are lonely. the world seems smaller and more complex than it did in the days of our foremothers and fathers, the past century has seen such rapid change on such a grand scale that it's overwhelming. changes in technology and culture are happening so quickly it's confusing, we want to retreat from it, to run away to a little island somewhere where nothing can touch us - and so we have been handed that fantasy by the mad scientists of psychology and culture that is corporate marketing: we can run away. it is normal to run away. it is perfectly natural to seal ourselves away in our homes, we become isolated by the things we own, with our televisions and computers to provide the illusion of connectedness. in our lonliness and despair we become insecure and frightened, and we isolate ourselves further for "security", behind locks and alarms and electronic eyes that warn of intrusion at any sign of life, we mistrust our neighbors and fear strangers. the world is a dangerous, frightening place. fear is good. give in to the fear.

what we need to do is not scrap civilization, but to heal it. unlock our doors, open our windows, tear down our fences. to heal our lonliness we need to become social animals again, not by pounding our chests and waving our guns, and isolating ourselves further until we can be saved by some hero or revolution but by reaching out and realizing that we are not alone. yes, there are dangerous people in the world, but there's more of us than there are of them. fear has many gifts to offer and can be a powerful teacher and a useful tool, if we let the fear rule us and separate us, then we lose a part of our humanity, and the lonliness is all we have left. (and therein lies the lesson of fear.) that is why we find fulfillment in volunteering for a non-profit, or putting ourselves on the line for a cause we believe in, or digging in the soil for community supported agriculture: through those things, we find connectedness again, we regain the humanity we have lost. the "heros" are us. all of us.

 

Chances are loneliness isn’t something you are looking to escape from. Keep in mind that when we are talking about lonely people, we aren’t necessarily talking about people with no friends or lovers. Lonely people can have many friends. What makes lonely people lonely is the quality of their relationships. If you are not satisfied with the relationships you have than you are destined to be lonely. There really isn’t anything mysterious or wonderful about it. You are going to be able to tell whether or not it is a temporary problem that is causing a need for closer relationships. More likely the reason there are so many lonely people is because loneliness is a very common personality trait.

It is not a common thing for someone who has realized they simply prefer solitude to the company of others to need a hero. Only someone who really doesn’t know themselves, or thinks their solitary nature wrong is going to need rescuing. What that person doesn’t realize is that finding that hero isn’t a likely happenstance. Even if a hero came along they would probably be sent packing because of the nature and personality of the lonely person.

As for people wishing for a hero out of nowhere. I don’t think we have to do anything more than turn on the television for our answer to why. We are a television generation. We have watched shows like Friends night in and night out for our whole lives. We connect with these fictional characters better than anything else because that is what our mind craves. It becomes a simple case of monkey see, monkey do. Except that we see and we can’t do. On television love always works. The stranger walking by on the street always becomes a soul mate and the episodes where life is accurately portrayed are few and far between. It is the reason that relationships are so dramatic in real life.

Solitude is normal. I would say a person content with their personality is in a better world. They are self aware, more so than an extrovert will ever be, and self assured. There is a reason the genius spends days and weeks in a locked room without contact. The only thing in this world that allows for genuine creativity is solitude.

There is nothing wrong with it.

 

Or take off your shirt. Either is acceptable. But only if you post pictures of the shirt-taking-offing-stuff-ness.

 

Loneliness comes and goes for people. I think that everyone either lonely or not wants a hero.

 

Sometimes, it's better to be lonely than having bad company

 

I am waaayyy lonely right now. I just moved to Florida from Seattle & I don't know anyone. AND to top it off, I don't know any pot dealers, so the experience has been even more saddening. Trinity, FL is like suburbia-pleasantville. I haven't seen one hippy, goth, or punk kid since I've been here...total drag.
No friends, no ganja....total bummer.

 

i just always thought there would be more to it all.....

 

that's just the trap that many fall into.

there's is nothing more to it... it's all in YOU. you create your own reality. even if you cant change outside circumstances, only you can create what's inside you and how you percieve life.

 

good advice... I've been thinking about it....

 

I wrote something about this the other night because I was reflecting on what I expect of my boyfriend, or what he thinks I expect.

Anyways, I didn't have exactly a stable past and unconditional love is something I long for so that I can finally forget the before (at least is this is my reasoning, in thought). It's an unfair demand on anyone, especially someone who had nothing to do with why I want it in the first place.

Maybe it has a lot to do with growing up or something. Letting our ideals and dreams go, maybe it's not simply cynicism or being jaded, but reality.

I can't even tell what I prefer anymore. Reality or the lies. I think it's adjustment. I never thought of this, in all my life. I guess I was selfish in the end, thinking *I* deserve this just because. We all deserve that, we truely do, but it's not something one person gives you. I think I feel better when a stranger is kind to me because it is more hopeful, in some way. Perhaps because a kind stranger hasn't shown you his/her bad side and all you've got is the good. That's what love starts out as anyways, and it's debateable when love is best. When it's passionate, or when it's comfortable. That's like asking if it's better to be on an euphoric drug the rest of your life, or be sober. I highly doubt you want the drug forever. You know, it all comes down to lies and truth and filling holes within us that are a thousand years deep.

 

I might be able to agree with you if she weren't so very... I don't know... 13?

 

I'll bet her pussy is nice and tight.

 

hahahaha.... fuck off.

ooooo... my first intentionally insulting post! woo hoo.

 

Advaya you have very good thoughts....