Age Differences

What do ya'll think about age differences and how they affect a lesbian relationship? Can they affect it less or more than a heterosexual relationship? What is your personal acceptable age difference?

My gf and I are 7.5 years apart. Sometimes I feel like I don't want to hold her back from being young and carefree. She is the one for me, and I know it....but I want to make sure I am good for her. I worry sometimes about the age difference, and specifically her age (just graduated college).

What do you all think? What are your experiences.

 

I don't think age affects love at all. An old girlfriend was about 8 years older than me and it never posed a problem. If you love her and she loves you, what difference does a few years make?!

 

i've been with women of all ages. and honestly, age doesn't matter, but maturity level does. if you are both on the same wavelength about important things, goals in life, etc... it works no matter what the age difference. or you could be the same age, with completely different desires/goals/etc. so age is really relative, and an arbitrary number that has little to no bearing on the true tests of relationships.

 

I like older women, but all my gf's have been a year younger than me....well no one was like 2 or 3 years older.

 

My girlfriend is 3 years older than me.

She's 19 and I'm 16. But she turns 20 in September and I don't turn 17 til December.

The age difference seemed hardcore when we first got together. But it's not much of one now

The only problem is that she's gonna be a sophomore in college and I'm only about to be a Junior in highschool. Granted, her college is only about 45 minutes/an hour away, but it's hard when she's there and I'm here. But since it's the summer we're okay

 

Good luck to the both of you

It is difficult to be in a long distant relationship, but if you keep communication strong it helps. Trust me I know. My girlfriend and I are finally living together after having been living 2 hours away from each other. It's tough, but sometimes it makes communication stronger, which can be a positive thing. I hope it all works out for you!

 

I wholeheartedly agree with nakedtreehugger. Age doesn't necessarily matter, but maturity levels do. As long as your maturity levels align, then there's no need to worry about age. My gf is almost 20 years older, and she makes me very happy. We have been together for two years, and things have been and continue to be great. It was difficult to tell my family and friends about the age difference, but they all have been supportive. I say go for it and don't worry about holding her back from being "carefree". Not everyone wishes to be carefree at that age; some prefer a nice, committed relationship to someone who already knows what she wants

 

I Have been in a Relationship with a 25 Year Age Gap...For 2 Years...

Apart from Her Having more Family Commitments...It's Not that Different...

To me...There is Not Another Woman on this Earth who can match her in mind...Body and Soul...

Infact I think the Age Gap makes our Relationship better...more Interesting...As the Generaton Gap Leaves Open more Things to Learn from One Another...There is Never a Dull moment!

I Like the Stability of our Relationship...It is Cosy...

(And she is...Ahem...Had more Experiance in the Love making Department...So Sex is GREAT!) Not that Sex is Everything...A Welcome Bonus..........................................................

I Can Not Imagine being with any Other Woman...I Truly believe I Have Found my Soul mate...

I Live in Her Home and she makes me very Happy and Feel Loved All Day Long Every Day...my Paradise was Found when I went to Live with Her...

She means the World to me...I Can Not Imagine this Ever Ending...

 

You know - I have always been a sucker for an age gap! I usually like older people (like 12 years or so has been the trend)...but with my girlfriend now, she's only 7 years older. Yay me!

I think that age gaps are only important if its psychotically out of whack (like 14 and 35) or if the maturity levels are not in synch. For example, I am 22 in August, my girlfriend will be 29 in November, and we are so in synch with what we want out of life, family, careers, etc. that it doesn't matter that we are 7 years apart. If anything, it makes us stronger and more sure of our love. She has doubts sometimes that she is holding me back, and I just reassure her that I love her and that is all we need. Our love is strong enough to keep us together through the learning process of the age gap and its obstacles.

I say kudos to you! Never feel like you are holding her back, as long as the love is there, she's right where she (and you!) want to be.

 

That actually makes sense. And is pretty much where I am at. I am about to be 30 and my gf is 22. We are in synch with what we want from life, from each other, family, friends, etc. And I have gotten a lot better about not feeling like I'm holding her back (it helps a lot now that she has graduated from college). I think for some reason I was mostly concerned about taking her away from the 'college life'.

I still worry about the age gap, as I know that the first year out of college involves a lot of changes in and of itself. But....now that we've been together for a long time, and a lot of changes already.....I feel much more sure about our ability to grow with each other through all the changes life brings.

This summer we have been apart all summer due to work, and it has been hard. But it has also renewed my faith in the strength of our love. Long distance is way harder than I think any age gap could be. Especially since we've both been working about 60-70 hrs a week all summer, so communication is limited even on the phone or email. Still, I am more sure of how much I love her now than before.

 

i agree with what everyone else is saying...age doesnt really matter...my first 'real' gf was almost 3 years older than me, but when it came down to it she was even more immature than what i was....then i had a gf that was about 2 years older than me...and she just turned out to be a psycho...and then my latest one was 15 year older than me...it was great while it lasted, but in the end we just werent in the same place...i wanted to start figuring out what i wanted to do with my life, but still have fun, and she still wanted to party all of the time...i mean i did all of that already and was just wanting to get things started with my life....honesty and communication are the best things in a relationship....i mean as long as you both talk about what you want then everything will work out...which i hope that it does for you

 

What about a 17 year age gap? Haha! 27 and 44? I'm drawn to older women mostly because they are so mature, they have it together and I feel like I can relate better to people older than me.

 

I think a 17-year gap is fine. My gf is almost nineteen years older than me, and we have been together for almost three years. Im attracted to the same kind of women you are, mysterious night: mature, confident. And I, too, feel that I can relate to older people than to my peers. Im not the kind of person who likes to go out constantly and "have fun." I have fun just staying at home or going on walks. And my gf has the same interests as me, so it works out.

 

me and .. my girlfriend are 16 years apart.. I feel so adolescent.. I'm always scared that I will act too young around here and she won't want me anymore.

I'm 18 and shes 34

 

I've been with women older than me, the most recent one being about 20 years. And although an age gap that big can be a problem for some people, I really think it depends on the individuals and how well you get on etc. Age is just a number, it's the people that matter. I've always been with an older woman to some extent.

 

My gf and i are 13 years apart, been together 2.5 years. Had a few issues at the beginning but its great. And ive always been attracted to the older ones!

 

Age is not important, not at all. What is important is the maturity (¿is that the word?) I'm sorry if my english is not good, I'm from Spain.. Well, what I was saying is that it doesn't matter if both have the same grade of maturity or almost the same.

 

My gf and I have been together for a year now...im 17 years older than her, it is an issue for me in a way, she hasnt really "lived" yet, ive been there and done that. Ive discussed this with her and she really doesnt care, but the problem is I do...she is very mature and knows exactly what she wants (me) but where do I go from here, when were together alone there is no one else I ever want to be with, when we go out it looks like ive robbed the proverbial cradle! This isnt a "fling" she really is it for me, so thats where i have the problem, if it was just a fling it wouldnt bother me...help from others in this situation would maybe help

 

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Hi, My girlfriend and I are 5 years apart. It's not much, but at times you can feel the difference, especially during arguments. It is something that really doesn't matter though. it's all on the person that you are with. Someone who is older than me as immature as someone who is younger. So basically, it's all on maturity level, not age.