advice please?!

Ok...so....my partner has the fattest congo in the back of his head....

Basically heres my problem.....Im sick of looking at it! Last year I jokingly hinted choppin the sucker off and he got pissed at me and gave me the cold shoulder for a full day!!!!! He's a devout Rasta and his dreads [dread] is more than just a hairstyle to him. I havnt mentioned anything about it since because I love him and respect his faith.....his dread is now getting to the point though where its starting to intefere with his hobbies such as mountain bike riding! He has to tie the sucker up onto itself so it doesnt get caught on the back wheel. Plus were getting married next summer and I realllllly just want to seperate the congo! Do you think its wrong of me to push this onto him or should I just learn to let it be forever and never mention it?!

 

p.s.....do you guys think with a razor blade and steady hand the congo will even seperate and give him 3-4 dreads? or do you think it'll just cause damage?

 

You can kinda still see the component dreads so id say you could separate it. As for if you / he should is a different matter and I couldn't really comment, you shouldn't really be putting him in a "Me Vs your personal beliefs" situation, especially seeing as the path of least resistance is for you just to put up with it.

 

idk mandy... you could try approaching it from a practicality standpoint and say, if its becoming such a pain in the ass, it might be time to cut and start again or something.
but i think if hes really attached to it, you might have to just put up with it.
ftr, i think its awesome.

 

I was just about to say that his dread is fucking sweet. I could see it causing a lot of interference problems. But all in all it's his head and hair. I think it's okay to have a conversation with him but don't to persuade him...just talk and be okay with any outcome so long as your voice your opinion and hear his.

 

In all honesty... I know I would want to get my hands on it. I'm not sure what the best way to approach the subject is. Ultimately, it's his choice and you can only express your feelings about it.

 

oh thanks so much ya'll for giving me your two cents on this....I appreciate it....it's nice to hear advice from fellow dreadheads. I'm diggin on what your all saying....I think I will casually mention the practicality of trying to seperate them for his own benefit and then leave it at that. Eeeeek I hope he goes for it! But if not I guess Ill be staring at that congo for the rest of my life! I saw the other thread of the asian dude with the fat congo and I can see my mans congo being like that when we're old.....and he's older than me so Ill prob be the one maintaining that bitch. lol.

 

Lmao!

 

personally i dont like the mono dread, and i think that if he loves you enough to marry you he should be reasonable about it, your not asking him to cut it off just make it look a little nicer. plus if its really bugging you, im sure you know some way to make your man do what you want him too

 

if he doesnt want to cut it for the practicality of it, i would just let him keep it.
i think its gnarly.

 

" im sure you know some way to make your man do what you want him too [/QUOTE]

lol....awww yes the power of female persuasion!

 

The mono dread is kinda gross. I agree. However, the rasta lifestyle entails that you must not mess with your hair. It has to be left to do what it wants and can in no occasion be cut or altered. I agree with you but from his prospective I understand where he is coming from.

 

yep its cool but you said hes a devout rasta and isnt the original pledge on the lines of no blade shall pass through my hair not really sure though and depends on what he wants

 

props to him for doing what he beleives

 

How would one go about fixing one of those bad boys? Just completely cut it off or is separation possible?

 

As much as I agree with you on it looking kinda gross, I have to say that I disagree with you trying to persuade him to abandon his faith/beliefs. JMO

 

Personally, I don't like big congos like that. Kinda gross. I like the one on the left though!

I think you should just accept it though, I doubt he would ever cut it, unless he himself truely wanted to.

 

wtf! seriously you're talking about making persuasions against his source and center, his spiritual roots! you're going to cut them as a way of pleasing yourself...

this is outside you, if it is a problem for you then let it be your own to bear, not his. i see nothing wrong with him, only this attitude that you should have control over something that is clearly not within your control. i guess i would call it "insecurity."

get over your shit, cuz if i were him i would give you the cold shoulder too

 

chill out mmg, shes only looking for some advice.

 

i bring perspective to this thread, if it were one-sided then she may not see the big picture. ya dig?

i rasta in spirit and faith. i dread natural, no scissors, no combs, no chemicals. if any broad tried and create a schism in my nature, i would be conflicted. if she were family i would hope she knows how strongly i feel about my locks as spiritual roots.

so because i see you offer no advice of your own, you arent helping anyone but yourself. check yourself, gdubz.