So i just recently started sleeping with a friend of mine. Tuesday was the 1st time we slept together and everything went great. Wednesday for some reason he was hard but wouldn't come (after like 45 minutes of going at it). He would get hard and then it would go away. So we decided to give it 2 days and go for it again. Well tonight it was pretty much the same thing, He was hard and after like an hour i had to call it quits. I'm wondering what his situation could be from. Is it from having too much sex? I'm actually getting slightly offended here. HAHA. He says it's not me considering all i have to do is hold his hand and he's hard... ANY ADVICE? Thanks in advance guys!
1. he's masturbating continuously when you are not around. (and/or) 2. it's his first experience, and nerves rule!(and/or) 3. his masturbatory history is one of hard and - to finish off - furious jerking, which cannot be replicated with a woman's vagina. Or mouth, for that matter. Try gently suggesting he completely lay off his pecker for a few days, then be kind in your 4play. Nerves and past experiences may be overcome with conversation and gentleness.
how true is all that cos i've had the same problem as the o/p with my now-ex for the last 7 months =/ and yeah it was my first gf, but i dont think i masturbated alot
I would second the nerves angle. Sex is very stressful for the young male.. "am i big enough".. "is this the right way"... "is she enjoying it" and of course, the "don't cum to soon, don't cum too soon" litany that has been programed into them since sexual awareness via popular culture. I agree with the first poster... tell him to lay off playing with himself, and do your part to keep him relaxed and he should be spurting in no time.
"He says it's not me considering all i have to do is hold his hand and he's hard... " just when u say that...i wish i was like that, my g/f was sitting with her feet on my lap massaging my cock whilst in the car then later on she was doin it with her hand and nothing happened, i think maybe her age was in the back of my mind and stopping me getting aroused altho it felt great. anyways sorry for hii jacking ur thread. and sorry dont really no the answer to ur question
So your actually telling me that your annoyed because he's staying hard If your wanting it to end your not doing it right. Try spicing things up a bit, I mean dear god why are you doing it if it's not pleasurable!
45 minutes of friction is a long time... bound to get uncomforable for the female. So, yeah... after 45 of penitration, it wouldn't matter I was sleeping with the best looking man in the world, i would want it to end.
Thanks everyone. it's not that the sex is bad, but like icedteapriestess said.. after 45 minutes to an hour i start to get sore considering i didn't have sex for a year (by choice.. haha) till he came along. He told me that he's even tried jacking off after leaving here and it still doesn't work. i really don't know. it was perfect the 1st time, now not so much. He admitted to me that i'm the 1st girl he's every actually completely had sex with. There were 2 others before me but he said he would pull out and then they'd finish off with a handjob.
bad history = bad karma; for every one time a gent admits to "jacking off," there are three or four others within the same time frame. He's addicted!
