My first girlfriend broke up with me months ago and I haven't had any luck in even having a date. So I have started to pay for sex, and while in feels great it also feels so empty because I know they just doing it for the money. I miss being able to give a girl oral and have her cum. I miss making out and the foreplay. Is it weird for a guy to want that? But at the same time masturbation isn't enough, I crave having my cock in pussy. But I worry I will become dependent on inferior paid sex cause I can get any girls I find remotely attractive interested in me. I'm not that attractive and only aiming for average looking girls. I'm just worried going to end up alone forever
If you're paying for it, you can get almost anything at the time you want it. If you're with a woman you aren't paying, she'll have her timing and she won't necessarily like doing everything a professional will do. Also, if you're having sex with a pro, you can be totally egoistic. If you're doing it with someone you aren't paying, you'll have to take into consideration her pleasure, too. If you get too used to pros, you may find difficult to stick around a partner who says no to you, who won't do certain things, or not exactly when you want them, etc. I know of women who get used to sex with male escorts and don't want relationships with non pro men. Could it happen to you? I don't know, but it's a possibility. But since you have no other option at the moment, why not? What if you deny yourself this and stay years alone, with nothing, waiting for that woman to come into your life?
To each their own, but I could not even get it up if I had to pay for it! I need all the other good stuff that comes with being close with someone to be arroused.
To me, that's an understandable concern. I've had similar concerns when I was deep into paying for sex, a couple of years back. Then I was able to fuck a girl from work. And, finally, I met someone I really liked. There's no guarantee you'll be as lucky, but I thought I'd share my story. Edit: I should also say that it's perfectly possible to pleasure a hooker. If you keep at it, eventually you'll have some intimate experiences with them even though it's paid. I think... Doubters will say I'm deluding myself, so just to show you my credentials: I've had a couple of free fucks from them. Cheers.
Basically men need to be able to accept a little bit of pain and yes even shame. If you should feel shame then just feel shame. If someone's trying to make you feel shit and you don't think you should, don't feel you should - then don't. You'll feel pissed off for about ten minutes and then it'll disappear. It's hard for various reasons, but just try to approach women as human beings, just like you. And stay true to yourself, like I've said above.
Each to their own - do what you want. If I get the urge to pay for sex I don't hesitate. It's all about finding satisfaction. I'm probably not the person to suggest anything (because when it comes to pick-up all I do is make it easier for everybody else by scaring the girls ...) but I think that if you're happy and satisfied it'll make you more appealing to the girls. Having said all that, I haven't paid for sex for quite a long time. I have paid for mutual masturbation though and I have a great time with some of the girls. It's cheap and it's good fun. I suppose I can use that to back up what I just suggested. I got very close with a few girls recently and it could very well have been the satisfaction that I got from the mutual masturbation sessions that helped me.
I was offered a paid position recently as a live in situation. He was older, 50ish and just wanted someone there most of the time. I considered it. I wasn't attracted to him but I wasn't un-atttracted to him either, if that makes seances. I could have a life of my own but he wanted me to be there for him. The money wasn't bad. I considered it. I don't consider him a bad person in the least, he just wanted to be close to someone. I still see him around and I know that I have a standing offer. That is where I left it.
I'm curious, the prostitutes who orgasmed, were you a regular with them? or did it happen on the first interaction with them?
no, i don't think that has anything to do with making people attempt to communicate with the deceased.
I think the major thing about prostitutes is that you don't know where they come from. Many of them are completely lying about being "of age" and have various serious issues and the only reason they're doing the job is because of desperation.
To quote a famous line "Money can't buy you Love"! Whilst it may allow the fulfilment of a Sexual desire, the intimacy required for a lasting relationship (regardless of initial physical attraction) requires the investment of time to enable the growing of any bonding. If one is looking for stable longevity, one has to "Meet before Meat" practice
I am an older guy, single and spent a long time before I decided to see an escort. It is amazing the thoughts that you have when you are on the outside looking in. Once I started, I realized I was meeting attractive, intelligent, successful women in their 20s and 30s that made it a great experience in more ways than just the obvious. Most of the time these ladies do have an orgasm, typically from oral. Keep in mind that I am seeing high end women, and never street walker/drug out/pimped out unfortunate souls. I do it for a variety of reasons. I have the means, enjoy the hot women, and by nature I am a thrill seeker. Probably why I ride my motor bike at 150 mph (although rarely!)
lol. I'll take it as a compliment, but I'm not into seducing women. All the credit goes to them. Edit: It's been ages since I've been to a non-LGBT club, but just to give you some perspective, I can't pick up a chick at a nightclub to save my life. I guess I had some measure of success when I was younger, but once I worked up the confidence to pay directly for sex, the whole nightclub thing was out the window. It's just more expensive and less enjoyable. There's someone for everyone and the women for me are hookers. The same way club chicks and I mutually loathe one another, I believe a have a natural kinship with prostitutes. They are brave women for the most part, and I respect them.
In general club girls aren't looking for hookups in the club...if you want to find a quality woman, you don't look in a club. I can see why prostitutes are easier but again. Think about the fact that in a real relationship you learn something and know more about the person than you generally do in a business transaction, where again many of the women are extremely screwed up in the mental/physical health department, therefore it's a form of manipulation and more than you know, many of them are underage and therefore completely unable to process what they're getting themselves into from a maturity level standpoint and in a good percentage of cases they are actually being forced or manipulated by someone else into doing the work they're doing. They might fall in "love" because they're desperate for some real meaning, understanding, appreciation in their lives of being more than just a means for the sexual gratification of men and because they're desperate to straight-up survive and get out of the situation they're in. There are some women who are truly intelligent about this career path, but they are very, very, very few and far between. If you're into it, I'm sure you'll imagine the women you experiment with are these types of women...they certainly wouldn't tell you otherwise...that's not good for business.
