Mayhaps this is the wrong forum to be posting in, but I wager alot of you menfolk frequent this forum. So theres this guy. We've been hooking up at different random times for the past five years or so. We were always living in different cities and stuff so we didn't pursue anything, plus I think he thought I was too young. I'm 25 now, so prolly more of a woman than a girl in his eyes. Last time it was better than ever, so we decided to be boyfriend/girlfirend. We like eachother alot. I met his parents and it went really well. He told his ma he wants to keep me. He wined and dined me and treats me with the utmost chivalry and respect. Plus the sex is amazing. He has decided to come with me to Thailand. He's thirty two and his longest relationship is a year and a half. He's only told two women he loves them. He whispered it to me once, but that was during sex and it didn't count. We've been together for about 2.5 months. I want to tell him I love him. I don't want to scare him off. How soon is too soon to tell someone you love them??
well..hmm after 5 years..i doubt ya could say its too soon if you really feel it..say it i cant resist sayin it when i feel it if your not sure u feelit though...don't feel like u SHOULD say it till u r sure its how u feel
Five years of hooking up every couple so foten and splitting to opposite sides of the country the next day. Its not like its been five years of a committed meaningful relationship..... I do feel like I know him pretty well though.
Five years of communication (with the occasional hook-up) is good for developing the kind of love that a 32 year old man is looking for. He sounds like a serious fellow. He would probably be more interested in your thoughts about the future than hearing those THREE WORDS escape your lips. He is way beyond "how soon is too soon" high school games (you are beyond that too, just not as far). Developing your relationship is more important than defining it. You should serious think about whether you want to spend your life with him. It sounds like those kinds of issues are going to come up.
Aaawww I do want to spend my life with him. I do. OK, check. Develop, don't define. You're right, Mike. Thanks. We women are always trying to define relationships for some odd reason. We're going to travel southeast Asia together and I imagine by the end of that trip we'll either be hopelessly in love or never want to see eachother again. Oh and thanks soaringeagle you're a sweetie
Hey. If his family likes ya and he really does love ya, Tell him back if it's true. And my BEST wishes to you.
His feelings for you seem definatly genuine and I think he has always loved you but afraid to tell you for fear of the feelings not being receprocated(sp?) but when you guys were making love they came to the out as his true feelings
Say something along the lines "You know that I love you." in front of his/your friends while you're chatting loudly in the kitchen to test the waters. That's what I'd do.
Actually, no. I have a way about me when I say things, I guess. So I strongly disagree with you spooner.
I told him and he loves me too. I was scared he didn't love me yet and he was plying it cool. Both of us waiting for the other one to say it first. We couls have been waiting a loooong time. I'm glad I said it. Felt soooo good to say it. Thanks for the moral support folks.
Love you too eagle! I'm so elated right now. Now that we've said it neither of us can stop saying it. Love is soooo wonderful. I 'm in love with love.
All I'm saying is that I would ridicule this guy for years to come about being whipped. All my friends would. And we've ruined relationships before.
