Abortion experiences

Have any of you had an abortion? What kind? What was it like? How do you feel now?

I am seriously considering having one, and I have to choose quickly, so any help would be greatly appreciated.

 

I've had one and of course it wasnt a pleasent experiance but not as bad as i had imagined and i do not regret it at all nor was there a time where i ever felt regretful of my decision. the place i went to was wonderful with an all female staff and they treated me wonderfully and made me feel very comfortable.....as comfortable as i could feel that day. if you have anymore questions feel free to pm me but thats all i want to say in the thread

 

Personally I am against abortion but thats a different thread

You said you have chosen quickly, clearly you havent or you wouldnt have said seriously considering one - if you decide to thats your choicr but please dont decide quickly - take your time, weigh up your pros and cons.
What about the father does he get a say? thats if he is still around etc.

I have spoken to ALOT of women over this subject and most of them do regret it a little purely for the fact of what they are doing - any abortion should never be considered lightly at all

 

Every sperm is sacred???...

*dances*

 

i've never been preggy, but a friend of mine had 2 abortions. she got depressed afterwards for awhile, but seemed to bounce back. abortion is...whoa, but adoption is an option (not knowing who's raising yur kid might drive u nuts). good luck with your decision, tough to say the least.

i'll pray for ya

 

In my opinion, it's just a cluster of cells. But, you may want to decide to talk about it with your partner.

 

I have never chosen to have an abortion but my body did for me. I had a spontanious abortion aka a miscarriage. I didn't know I was pregnant until I saw that mass of greyish white cells. I was really depressed for about a week, then I felt a lot better. I am also bipolar, which intensified the depression. I honestly can't say how I would have been if I had chosen to end the pregnancy. That's such a tough question. More than likely, I would rather choose adoption with a really picky agency than choose abortion, due to my religious precepts. My sister was adopted and she learned from an early age about it. She wants to look for her birth parents, but that isn't an overwhelming concern. Plus, my parents were denied an adoption for three years after I was born. They wanted to adopt because my mom couldn't have any children after I was born. The Catholic agency they went through had a lot of requirements that had to be met before anyone was allowed to adopt. I support an agency like that more than most.

I'm sorry you have to make this tough decision. Good luck with your choice!

Peace & love

 

I have one friend who had an abortion at 16. At first she was fine, but a few months later she had really deep regrets.

On the other side of the scale....

A different friend of mine had an abortion last year at 17. The only problems she got from the abortion was an infection... nothing mentally, but then again, she really didn't want it in the first place.

 

I had an abortion. A year or two ago.
I remember before they knocked me out I saw this huge container/trash and this and this long tube.
And about 15 minutes later I woke up in a different room with the voices/crys of all these other girls in pain as well. It was actually quite disturbing. There were curtians between each and every one of us though.
It was the most terrifying thing I've went through, altough it all turned out okay in the end. I've made the best decision possible. I won't ever forget about that.

 

If you have the option to go the chemical route-taking the pill combination vs. the surgical route, take the pills! Much less traumatic and easier recovery. I have experienced both. The surgical route pay for the anethsia(sp) option! I woke up during mine not fun but I lived. Research the facility and choose a reputable one. Good luck you, positive vibes.

 

i've never heard of a woman being 100% satisfied with her decision to abort her baby.

as desperate as it may seem at the time, being pregnant is not the end of the world and there's alot of support out there.

my mom had an abortion many moons ago and after they were done they said "oh by the way, it was twins" . (I have twins myself now.)

You just never know what world of potential beauty you could be throwing in that trash can.

Whatever decision you make, make it with your whole heart.

 

She's asking for abortion experiences, not pro-life rheortic, because god knows there is enough out there.

Not to mention there are pleny of women in this thread who have said they do not regret their decision. So you can stop using THAT line now...


I had an abortion 4 years ago and I am "100% satisfied" with my decision. I used the pill method at 5 weeks. I went, took some medication, a few days later went back, took a different pill, then went home. A few hours later there was really bad cramping, very, very painful but not long lived, and some heavy bleeding. It definitely wasn't fun, and I wouldn't want to do it again. It was a diffucult time for me (and would be for any woman), but just because it wasn't easy doesn't mean I think it was a bad decision. I was regretful that I got pregnant, but I have never regretted my decision.

 

I'm not the only one who didnt stick to the "abortion experiences" only. You tell her what you feel in YOUR heart, and I'll do the same. And how do you know that what i've said wont help her?

I find this line very puzzling. all you did to get pregnant was have sex, which is pretty easy, and most likely had it's pleasures....and you regret that. But everything you went through to abort your baby, all the pain and emotion, sits 100% well with you, even today.

 

Please PM her to ask her that. Let's keep this thread clear of the whole pro/con issue, okay? We don't need a war. I know you probably aren't meaning to start one. But as this is a sensitive issue, anything said could provoke someone into a bad response and throw the whole thing off topic.

 

i'm definately not trying to start a war.


i didnt ask her anything, i just said i thought it was puzzling. I'm not asking for any answers, just saying what came to heart and hoping it might help her and others to look inward.


hey btw hippyfreek, i like the goth pic in your gallery, i think it looks great on you.

 

I don't regret having sex, i regret getting pregnant. I wish I had been more careful, like condoms with my birth control. And yes, everything I went through during the abortion sits 100% well with me EVEN TODAY. Second-guessing me isn't going to change that.

I wasn't asking for help, nor did I imply that I need it.

If you wanna try to make me feel bad about it you can do it through PM, like previously suggested.

 

Thanks for the compliment.

And I know you didn't mean anything by your comment, but I know the climate in this forum, especially during any abortion-related thread, and I was trying to do a bit of pre-emptive peace keeping, just so nothing gets started later. Not trying to make you a bad guy. I could just see that comment starting something a few posts from now.

*hugs*

 

sometimes we get help without asking for it or even knowing we need it. People rarely ask for help, it goes against our proud nature.

i wasnt trying to do that. We are ALL broken people.

 

More with the condesending comments. Look, this thread isn't about me, or about whether abortions are good or bad. This thread is for people to post their abortion experiences. There are plenty of abortion debate threads, it seems like you are looking for one of those. This one, however, is not.

If you want to go on about how I might need help, or how I am too proud to ask for it at least start a new thread if you aren't going to PM me. But don't try to imply that because I had an abortion and am not upset about it that I need help. I know it goes against any pro-life propaganda you may have been fed and want to feed us, but not all women turn to shambles after an abortion.

 

Seems like you are taking unnecessary offense. read again, i said WE, not YOU.

I dont remember reading those rules. And how often does a thread go that way? like i said, i am not the only one who didnt just type out my own "abortion experience". This thread is for anyone who might have something to share. (and i DID share my mom's experience, liek some other's have shared someone else's as well)...
The original poster is thinking about doing something that could leave her hurting in more than one way. So shouldnt all angles be considered, or should we all just encourage her to do it? i'll be the one to swim against the school, i'm used to it. I want to encourage her to see what kind of help is out there for pregnancy and motherhood, and to weigh her options if no one else will.

nope, not looking for a debate. just thought i'd share what was in my heart, and of course, we are not all going to agree.

I cannot judge anyone for having an abortion, that is not my job. It IS my job to speak up when i feel someone might get hurt, and that is all i have done.

sorry if i crossed your own personal boundaries sera

*bows out*