A Very Sad Day

Last night, I found out that a good friend (Robin Malta) had been found murdered in his home. He was a 43 year old, hair stylist here in New Orleans. He was a former Grand Marshall of the New Orleans Southern Decadance Celebration. This was a guy who embraced life and all it had to offer.

My reason for posting this is simple: go see your friends, spend time with them, tell them how you feel about them, because they may not be around tomorrow.

My friend Robin and I, saw each other last week and said we must get together for lunch or drinks. However, the everyday bull shit got in the way for both of us. We never did hook up. Now he is gone, a victim of fucking violent crime.

 

I've been dealing with a lot of bullshit on the forums today, what you have just said is a sharp reminder of whats important in life.
bkcmar, I am so very sorry for your loss, I hope you don't mind, I have lit a candle for both of you on my altar, I am absolutly certain that he knew how much you ment to him, the path of grief that you will be walking over the coming months will be a hard one, so if you ever need anything let me know.
if you wish I can copy this thread over to he gay forum, if you have friends there that could offer their support, then it will exist both here and there

many blessings
Samhain

 

i am so sorry to hear that
and god it's such a harsh reminder to me..
every day bullshit gets in the way of me spending time with alot of my friends..i really need to put forth more of an effort
i'm very sorry for your loss
~much love

 

Sometimes not often enough
We reflect upon the good things
And those thoughts always center around those we love
And I think about those people who mean so much to me
And for so many years have made me so very happy
And I count the times I have forgotten to say "thank you"
And just how much I love them

 

sorry for the loss

 

Wow, I don't know what to say... Sorry for your lost. Reading it is sad enough but it must have hit you like a sac of bricks.

It does make me value every moment I've ever spent with my friends. My best friend is heading out of town for a few weeks and I'll be sure to give him a big hug at the airport just because you never know when your not going to see them again. Jt really makes me want to strive to make every moment special with them.

Once again, sorry for your loss. Let us know if there is anything we can do.

 

I'm very sorry. I will most definitely go out and cherish my moments and friends well. Your loss is a total heartbreaker, but I hope that you will be able to move on well. My best wishes.

 

I'm sorry.

In my experience, death is obviously an awful part of life, but also makes one stronger as a person.

My thoughts are with you.

 

I'm sorry to hear of your loss.
Hope you find it easy to move on

 

I'm very sorry to hear about your friend. I always tell my friends just how much they mean to me, how much I love them and how very glad that they are in my life. always tell them today because tomorrow may never come.

We are here for you my friend. If you need anything, ask.

peace,
bob

 

I am extremely pained to hear of your loss.....was it a homophobic motivated crime?

 

Deeply sorry to hear...I can't imagine going through the same pain as you are, and to talk about it openly and warn others to cherish moments with their loved ones, really speaks positively about you. Try not to dwell on how he died but more on how he lived, i found that comforting when i've dealt with my loses, although they died under different circumstances.

Once again, Sorry to hear.

 

I'm really sorry to hear for your loss. I think you give good advice saying how we shouldn't take things for granted. Recently, a kid that I vaguely knew at a school I once went to committed suicide which was a real shock. Again, my deepest sympathies go to you and I hope you manage to get through things alright.

 

Wow I am so so so sorry to hear that, I fear that would happen to me or my boyfriend everyday. This country is so hateful. I really want to move to canada.

 

They have hate crime laws there.

 

was it a hate crime?

 

I am sorry to hear this, you are right...spend time with those you never get to see. Im sorry again, blessings. Hugs

 

I´m also so sorry, however, thanks for mention, I feel so guilty every time when I have some jar with my close people.

I wish you that you´ll be strong and have a lot of beautiful memories. Like ShadowShifta said, try not to dwell on how he died but more on how he lived. I agree.

Also kissing and hugs.

 

I´m sorry for your lost. it is horrible to know these kinds of things happen everyday and hurt so many people who stay behind.

i want to thank for sharing this with us, because it truely is a sharp reminder of what is important in life, friends

good luck man

 

Whoever murdered Robin Malta should be prosecuted for a hate crime! We can't let these Bible thumping "Christian" nut jobs (who really are not Christian because a true Christian would not commit murder. After all, Jesus Christ never killed anyone, and any jackass can read the Bible and then claim to be Christian) continue their reign of terror against gay people.