Hey all, It is kinda concerning me. I had sex with my GF today, it was my first time but it did not bring any special pleasure, she was not a virgin it all went pretty well for her but for me I went on for like an hour with all the oral recieving and intercourse but could not Cum and at no point did I even feel closer to cuming. I was wondering what could be the reason, what comes to my mind is maybe I am too used to my own touch ( Masturbation ), can this be the case, has it happened with anyone here, kindly right back Thanks !
I am no expert, but I think that there are a bunch of things that can cause this. Sometimes, it just isn't doing it for me and it isn't going to happen. To wet, to dry, forgot to feed the cat, got to get to work, paper is due and so on. A million things pop into our minds that effect all of that. Because being with a partner is so completely different than with yourself, this is rarely the problem. However, if there is something she could do "better" or "different" and more to your likeing, you really should say something. Don't say "Do it like this..." more like " Try it this way..." type of thing.
Was it not feeling good at all, or were you just unable to orgasm. 95% chance the inability to orgasm was due to nerves/mental state/being not that attracted to the girl etc etc. Hell, even now, there are times when I'm just not feeling it. Other possibilities: If it doesn't feel good at all to you, you could, as you've said, gotten too accustom to your masturbatioin technique. Usually, men masturbate int he same way and are their hands are rougher than a vagina. The roughness can actually desensitize you a bit which would make a vagina less pleasurable. This can in extreme cases also lead to you only being able to orgasm when touched in that specific way. Its a fetish in a sense that you need specific stimulation to get off. Other than that, there could be a medical reason that need to be checked out by a doctor.
Ark - it could be the excessive masturbation, or a fear of getting her pregnant. Do you use a condom? If so, try a thinner, more sensitive one. If not, try using one. Had you ejaculated in the hours just before having intercourse? That could lessen your sperm load.
if you can get it up and not finish, then I think its mostly mental or stress related. ED usually is a physical thing and can be dealt with by drugs such as Viagra, Cialis or Levitra. I'm not too sure about the ability to release. Maybe you should see a doctor.
Well I really found her attractive, actually she was my teacher but rightly said by some above that I was not totally convinced that I should be having sex with her. Secondly she kept on saying that don;t come inside me well I did like the feeling of going inside her but I believe since it was my first time I was more caught in the state of actually having sex haha. Well I masturbate 1 - 2 times usually and even that day it could have been the case that I had masturbated in the morning and before sleeping the previous night and in early afternoon I went for her. That was the only time I had sex because after that I did not feel like going for it again as I did not want to have sex for the heck of having it but I am one horny man and sex is on my mind 24/7
When I say i Dint feel like going for sex, it was only for that lady. For other women i crave for sex haha
