A question for bi husbands......

If your wife is not only no longer interested in sex, and, also, has "cooled" towards you, emotionally-wise, do you find that at least some of your bi/gay male "playmates" also provide you with emotional support when you need it?

Do these men view you as a TRUE friend, one that they care about and respect, or is sex all they are looking for in your relationship?

 

Most of the men who have bedded me are there strictly to vent their sexual heat out into me -- I know, accept & enjoy that. But being a total bottom -- for me -- is at least as much an emotional as sexual quest, and when I get the opportunity to climb into bed with a top man who is willing, to whatever extent, to appreciate and share that, what happens next can be sooo beautiful & fulfilling for me ...

 

Generally speaking, the majority of men I've been with were not interested in relationship, just sex. One of my favorite fantasies involve having sex with dear friends who are Straight, but I wish weren't.

 

I don't have any play partners, and am only hetero-romantic. However, I do gain emotional support from a few bi friends I've made here and in other places online. It's very hard to meetup with other bi married men, even local, even 2 miles away, due to time constraints. A lot of chat conversations are either short, or mostly asynchronous, responding when we can.
It's not perfect, but it beats the alternative of having no other connections to share our desires? It's helped stave off serious depression, plus the fact of knowing that I'm not alone in my interests, seeing all the posts and stories here makes a big difference as well!
So, a big thank you to all of you who share your stories, thoughts, and communicate on here and elsewhere!

 

One of my fantasies would be to live with a guy like you, at least for a few days. I bet your extremely sexy

 

I’m my experience most of the men I have been with are looking for uncomplicated sex. It’s been rare that they want more than that.

 

Given that most "straight" or "bi-curious"men these days tend to shy away from "tight" m/m friendships (too "queer" for them) this does not surprise me in the least.

IMHO, I believe the "gay" stigma is what keeps a lot of non-gay men from forging truly close bonds with other males.

Funny,when you watch tv commercials, many commercials will feature two girlfriends "hanging", but commercials featuring two male friends (unless wives/girlfriends are present) are few and far between.

I've seen car commercials where two female friends are in a car, or, a carload of girlfriends, but none featuring all men.

And when you DO see a MALE in a car, he is either:

A: By himself.

B: With his wife/galpal

C: Wife and kids.

It's almost as if these companies go out of their way to ensure viewers that the men they are watching are "normal" men, and not gay.

Back in the 1800's (and especially during the Civil War), and into the 1900's males were mot at all afraid of showing affection towards their male buddies.

I've seen many period photos of male friends embracing one another,or even (horrors!) sitting on the other's lap.....good Lord a'mighty, imagine THAT today?!?!?

Today, f/f females are widely celebrated, while close m/m friendships seem to be "verboten".

Double-standards, coupled with too much of the "Johnny Macho" attitude do not bode well for m/m friendships today, at least from what i can see.

Of course, there ARE exceptions........................

 

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yessss! I would love to spend some time living with you just like that!!

 

None of the many male partners I've had or presently have provide anything other than the lustful sex we are wanting and needing that our wives cannot provide because they do not have a cock.

 

All my relationship has been sexual

 

Whatever gives you the most pleasure....go for it!

 

.......sometimes, you might be with a male partner whom you THINK might be satisfied with just a sexual thing, but, suddenly, you find that he is wanting more......and a part of you long denied finally also comes to light.....hey, it can happen............

 

I’m not saying it can’t happen. It’s just not as common as guys just wanting uncomplicated sex.

 

Given what the world (and people) are like today, sometimes a "strictly sexual" relationship can save a lot of grief and hard feelings in the long run...........

 

I've been down this road enjoying myself with him while also enjoying being married to a woman and walked away from him. I had no interest in a relationship with a man, just sex, because I also need what a woman provides. I'm not changing sides as I enjoy playing on both sides of the fence.

 

This whole lifestyle is a slippery slope.

When I first realized I liked anal play was early on. I won't say at what age, but moderators would edit this if I said. And at that time all I wanted was just the feeling of something up in me. It was usually the nozzle of mom's douche equipment. Or the tip of the squeeze bulb in the medicine cabinet. Something slipped in = FEELS GOOD!!!

Then a fellow would discover porn mags. Those women were inserting cocks in their vaginas and it seemed they liked it. So I would learn to fashion my own home-brew dildos and I've graduated to knowing I'd like to have a cock inside me. Now, I hated the idea of physical contact with another male. No desire for having the man, just his dick.

Years would pass and I've visited my first adult bookstore. And bought a dildo! This is just like a dick! And I loved having it in me. I love dicks now. I live to love dicks. But I still despise men.

When I hit 40 I decided was now or never for exploring actually letting a man fuck me. I can tolerate the man, I just want the dick. If he can not touch me too much and just fuck the ever-loving daylights out of me........... I'll be happy.

I'm 56 years old. Back in the summer one evening I was sitting in a booth at a little out of the way restaurant. I was totally in drag. Full make-up. Nice big boobs. Leather skirt. I was dressed perfectly. I sat in a booth across from a big black man that earlier that day had fucked me in ways I had no idea were doable. His seed was leaking out of me as we sat and chatted and ate our snacks. I felt love for that man. He could touch me in any way he wanted to. If he said get under the table now and suck my dick, I would have done it.

 

Since my wife knows I'm bi she's gave me permission to deal with my bi urges I've found a suck buddy. I call in to his house once or twice a week for fun x

 

All bi married males should be lucky enough to have a wife who gives them the "green light" for hot m/m fun!

 

That's just the thing though. Not all wives of bisexual men give the "green light" for one-on-one m/m gay fun.
My wife for example, accepts me for who I am (I'm a bi bottom guy), but only seems to be ok with me meeting my bi urges/needs if she's also physically involved. Other than that, I watch gay, transgender, and bi MMF porn, and chat with other like-minded guys