.. so here's the story: this friend of mine does cocaine occasionally.. she likes it.. however I cannot believe how she just isn't addicted to it. Like I don't believe her.. I think she's lying to me and it's worrying me because my best friend overdosed on it and died from hypertermia. I feel like.. I attract girls addicted to cocaine it's horrible.
and if somebody could reply to me and help me out it'd be great cause I'm freaking out I need to know how to save her cause I don't want another dead best friend (yes she is my best friend here in the states)
well here's my answer. There may be people who experiment with cocaine every once and a while and can get away with it. However, those of us who have used cocaine constantly and are dependant on it turn to a program called cocaine anonymous. Cocaine Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from their addiction. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop using cocaine and all other mind-altering substances. There are no dues or fees for membership; we are fully self supporting through our own contributions. We are not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization, or institution. We do not wish to engage in any controversy and we neither endorse nor oppose any causes. Our primary purpose is to stay free from cocaine and all other mind-altering substances, and to help others achieve the same freedom.
All you can do for any friend that has problems is to give them information. Cocaine Anonymous as listed above has lots of literature. There meeting times and places are listed in most newspapers. I believe they also have a national hot line - check the phonebook. After you have done all you can do for them it is up to you. It may come down to you saying, “I can not live with what I believe you are doing to yourself - so we can not be friends any more". That is tough but you have to do what is best for you.
Have you told her your fear's? Make her wake up to your worries - if all else fail's get to know her dealer and shop him in, then that's the end of loads of drug's as well.
but.. do you think it's possible that she just doesn't have a habit of doing it? I feel like she would have to have such a strong mind not to fall into a habit.. and she doesn't seem to be that way, I mean, strong-minded. Cocaine is so psychologically addicting, just like all the other stimulants. I don't know what to tell her, how to put it..
yes, actually, hard as it may be to believe, all drugs CAN be used in moderation by some people. people can even shoot dope or smoke crack "once in a while" if they are strong minded enough. one of my best friends used to shoot heroin, and used to do it a lot, but was one of the very few people that didn't ever actually develop a physical addiction to it. if shes one of the lucky people that likes cocaine but can use it in moderation, she may well end up fine. or, later on down the road (which is somewhat likely) she could end up addicted. i know quite a lot of people who only use cocaine on occasion, but have also known quite a lot that have had really rough addiction problems with things like this. i've known girls who've performed sexual favors in order to get the drug, or money to buy it with, and i've known people to steal cash and things to pawn from loved ones in order to buy it. it all depends, really, and no one can say for sure whether she actually has a problem or not, especially if you yourself are not sure. its funny, some people seem to get hooked instantly, and some people can do it only on occasion for a very long time without getting addicted. its the same way with cigarettes. some people instantly become "smokers" practically over night, but with most people, myself included, it started as an occasional thing and gradually, over a matter of months, i found myself to be a regular smoker. the more and more i smoke, the harder it is to quit. then there are people, however few there are of them, that can go their whole lives as social smokers and nothing more. i'd suggest sitting down and talking to her about your fears. discuss her use, and inquire about how frequently she uses it and so on until you're satisfied that either she does or does not have a problem. and remember if she does have a problem, the best thing you can do is try to support her in recovery and help make that an option for her, but you can't force her to quit if she doesn't want to. but if she says she only uses it once in a while, unless you have strong evidence to the contrary theres not too much reason to suspect shes not. watch her behavior and spending habits and weight over the next few weeks.
thank you, i try to be helpful most of the time, and this is a pretty serious matter and something that would really concern me, too, if she were my friend. being conerned is a sign of a good friend, and even if she doesn't have a problem she should be appreciative if you approach her in a caring manner rather than being accusatory and prying. btw, if she has a problem but doesn't want to go to cocaine anonymous or if there isn't a group like that where you live specifically geared towards cocaine users, there are plenty of other support groups. for example, alcoholics anonymous, despite the name, is actually one of the best groups of this sort and for this reason many drug addicts who are not necessarily alcoholics attend AA meetings. also worth checking out might be NA, or narcotics anonymous.
If she thinks she cant get addicted to it, make her test that. Tell her to stop for atleast 2 weeks, see how she does.
good advice. with something so potentially addictive, if you use it and like it, its probably best NOT to use it anyway. something feels really good, and it makes you want to believe the stories about addiction and such won't apply to you somehow...you do it a few more times because you think it feels pretty awesome, then before you know it it can sneak up on you. something i've learned the hard way in the past with cigarettes and even marijuana, and lately i've decided i have to implement this type of behavior myself or i will end up with some more serious problems. i love pills....opiates, sedatives, whatever, as long as its not an upper...but i dont have much self control, and i know i'm playing with fire. i just need to quit now while its still experimentation, i dont trust myself to not become addicted. i know myself and my behavior patterns too well now to let that happen, and i dont want an opiate or benzo problem. but yeah, if shes not addicted, she should be able to go without it. try to stress to her that if she CAN go without it, she SHOULD go without it.
Some people are simply not the addictive type and don't form drug habits And in any case, responsible use of any drug is possible. Maybe your friend has her shit together. but then again, maybe not. What you've got to ask tyourself is "who's problem is it?"
Some people simply know it is bad, but like it every once in a while. I have a good friend I chilled a bunch with. Line after line, everyday, then at night soooo much herb and a tylenol sleeping pill. Stopped around september and didnt do it at all until new years eve this year. He had gnarly come downs after doing it, but could control it pretty good after a while of doing it. Never really had a problem. But dont try it cuz of that, cuz thats pretty rare.
Never had a problem with it every now and then, you know, though I know people who go through eightballs every night. I used to be a pillfiend.
Well, guess what. Lisa is now officially, a total coke-head. Basically, now, her life revolves around it. She is losing all her friends, cause she wants to, cause they don't do blow... she's been weird with me, like... avoids me... at some point she was trying to get me into it, and when she saw me totally freak out on her as she was crashing on day, she's afraid of talking about it around me, she lies to me... invents stuff... she hangs out with those "movie producers" in New York, who go to fancy hair salons at 5 am and blow a ton of coke on those mirror tables.... I feel like shit
Penny, I'm very sorry to hear that. I don't know anyone with serious drug problems, so I can't say I know you feel. I have had a broken heart when someone I knew did something they shouldn't have done. If there is anything we can do, let us know.
my condolences- now help her out buy CUTTING HER OFF COMPLETELY!!! "when you realize you've lost control, call me- BUT NOT UNTIL THEN" it hurts- it sucks- but it's her only hope. be strong, and i'm hopping for her- that's all there is. 'On each of us our responsibilities lie..."
I have done cocaine over 100 times and I never became addicted to it. Mind you I didn't dabble in it either I used to do an 8 ball every time I did it and even used to go on multi-day binges. I got bored with it and quit, I haven't touched it in months and had no withdrawals nor the urge to do it again even when it was in my face. If you don't abuse a drug, it won't become a disease. I am speaking for myself though, your friend may be addicted and in denial. But let HER decide that. The first step to recovery is admitting your in denial and accepting that you have a problem. You can't make assumptions about her and her so-called 'addiction'.
