52 #Buffalo - Single bi guy seeks college guys for friends, benefits or anything in between

Maybe this is your first time away from home, away from family, away from attitudes that might work against you in some way. You're now in an environment which not only gives you the freedom and comfort to do things you might not have been able to do so easily, but also kind of encourages you to explore some of them.

Maybe this is the first time you have seen a significant presence of the LGBT community and it's making you question your own sexuality.

Maybe you have been questioning your sexuality for awhile and are looking for others for some kind of advice or help. You might be so confused you're not sure what to make of it all.

Maybe you know you have an attraction to the same sex and are looking for ways to accept it.

Maybe you know you have an attraction to the same sex and are looking for a friend with some kind of benefits.

And maybe you're open to getting to know an older guy.

I'm a single 52 year old bi guy. I've struggled with my sexuality for years starting at around college age. Maybe that's one reason I'm drawn to college aged guys.

I'm really open to what kind of relationship I'm looking for.

To be transparent and blunt, sex is on the list. I have yet to do anything with a guy, so if the appeal of an older guy is he's experienced and I don't suit you, I understand and won't be offended.

As I wrote, I'm open but there are opportunities that I'm drawn to and those I'm not. If you respond with one word sentences, I will do my best to respond to turn you down, but I might just ignore you. You're in college so you should be able to write something that expresses something substantially more than "sup."

I'm also willing to wait for the right time. If you want a blow and go the moment we meet, we are probably not a good match. First we should meet in public to feel each other out, on a more nonsexual level. (Sure there would be sexual undertones, but still.) Plus from a safety standpoint it makes common sense. Things could click after a half hour of chat over coffee. Or it could take longer. The thing is I'm not necessarily looking for a boyfriend to fall in love with, but I am looking for some kind of connection, even if it's destined to be one night stand, which I prefer it not be. The best kind of sex happens when the people involved are in tune with each other.

Fair warning: I'm not assuming monogamy and neither should you. What I'm looking for is intense, but also casual. If I see opportunities with other guys, I will consider them. I will be safe of course and expect the same of any guy I am with.

On the other hand, if platonic friendship is all you want, you got it. As a gentleman and a decent human being, I promise. I know what it's like to deal with conflicting feelings that shouldn't be conflicting in the first place. (I also know what it's like to be pressured to do something you don't want to do.) You might have feelings you really don't understand, or don't want to understand. Sometimes you just want someone to listen, maybe throw some advice. Many people have helped me out over the years and I want to pass along the favor any way I can, even though I don't have all the answers, or most of them really.

If you're somewhere in between, you're looking for an intimate experience but not ready to take the plunge yet, I got you. I will do my best to consider you. I might challenge you but my interests will never be a motivation in that. In fact I'm a bit hesitant to go for it myself.

I do hope to hear from some guys! Even online chat would be welcome. Some mutual fun would be great, but even if I could do some good here I'd be happy.

I'm in the Buffalo, NY 716 area.