I'm 43 and I have been seeing a man my age named Blake. We met on the bowling league a few years ago and have been dating seriously for about the past 90 days. Since both my kids are off at school I now have the time to spend on dates / etc. To keep the story short I let Blake fuck me last night. I really wanted to get to that point with him, but I don't want to have to conversation with my kids that I want to get remarried. What do I do?
Okay. Let me clarify. Things are serious with this guy, but the problem is that not a lot of people know that we're dating. I have not dated in a very long time. I was kinda scared about having had sex because it's like, now there's no denying we like eachother.
it's perfectly possible to have sex with someone you don't like. your kids are adults, they should be able to handle their mom getting remarried.
So, this is about telling the kids? Ages? What was the cause of your separatin, or was it widowhood? Are the kids well adjusted overall? Is the guy talking about a potential marriage, or are you just getting caught up in sex? Overall, I'd say talk when it's close. It's your life, but it's nice to have the spawn on board.
My husband passed away 8 years ago. I want to marry Blake and he seems to feel the same way. The sex was a huge wake-up call that this relationship is move forward. What makes it hard is that my life, everything I have, my kids... that all has memories of my husband. He's gone of course but it's awkward to have a different man in that role. Idk, sorry if this is dumb.
Don't you think your desire to marry this guy because you fucked him the night before is a little hasty. Since it appears your kids acceptance is your most important concern, wouldn't it be better to introduce them to this man as the man you are dating, rather then the man you are going to marry. Ultimately you should do whatever makes you happy, and if your kids care about you they will understand accept you being with another man that is not their father. Just take your time and don't do anything impulsive.
