29 partners and counting. Stud or Slut?

I recently read an article where a college age student professed to having 29 different sex partners. They were basically one night stands. The person had no desire to get to know the person, it was all about sex (I'm practically quoting the person).

You will notice I didn't write the gender. I want to know if you think this behavior is acceptable or not. I don't apply the double standard, so it doesn't matter if the person is male or female.

Perhaps I'm a prude, but I think that's an excessive amount and what troubles me is the attitude: It's just sex. To me, they are using the other person. Why? I just don't understand sex without emotional bonding. (Then again, I was a virgin until I met DH.)

The person was unconcerned about STDs and pregnancy.

It just seemed very sad to me that this person had so many sexual partners without an emotional connection. Made me grateful to have my one partner that meets all of my needs.

What do you think?

 

Did he get anybody pregnant or give anybody an STD?

Otherwise, I'm in favor of consenting adults making each other happy.

 

Today standards 29 seems high. Myself being from the 70's-80's era, when sex was at a peak for me. No concern of std's people were more open. I had a friend who was in Haight Ashbury S.F. in the late 60's. He told lots of stories of free love experiences. He told stories of sleeping with girls and not even knowing their names. Don't wish to make myself any older, but wish I had been there. 67 summer of love what a great time.

 

If its a girl a slut. If its a guy a stud. It is what it is. The world aint fair

 

I think what random people who have nothing to do with it think has absolutely nothing to do with anything. Period. It is a matter for those involved. 29 is not a big number at all for some people, and if you understand the risks and it makes you happy, piss on everyone who doesn't like it and their arbitrary opinions too

 

Not my thing, but I sure don't judge other people that do it! Whatever makes them and the people they play with happy.

 

The person in the article didn't mention pregnancy or STDs, so I can't make an assumption either way.

What is troubling (to me) is they didn't mention "safe sex."

 

Why the double standard? Who do you think the males are sleeping with then, (to earn a higher number)?

 

I mentioned in response to another quote, the article didn't indicate the person was aware of the risks.

 

Not everybody needs an emotional connection to have sex. If this person wants sex and can get it, why not?

About STDs and pregnancy, even if she/he isn't concerned, as long as the other partner is, they could still be safe. And if they both want to be unconcerned, it's their choice.

We live in a world full of disclaimers, but it's still up to the individual to care, or not. It sounds as if the 29 encounters were consensual. It means it was a choice, meaning nobody's business, but theirs.

 

Not my thing either but if they don't pick up something or have a whole bunch of kids who end up needing to live on welfare then I have a hate on for the idea.

I think one who has more then one kid attached to their name should put back into the system somehow, I hate that a bunch of young women could be screwed in more ways then one if it's a guy sewing as many wild oats as he can for the count, but then again she should be protecting herself too. Where I live there are too many young mothers with the government fending for their many kids. Probably is everywhere.

 

If a guy is screwing for count and his partners know this and are screwing for momentary pleasure (or count), I see nothing immoral about either's actions.

 

I'm way in front.

 

I have only fucked seven women in my life. Three of them were my wives, one was the friend of my first wife, who was there as I fucked her friend, two were gals with whom I made real emotional connections, even if it could not last, and the last was the wife of a good friend, who was there to watch me fuck her. He, by the way, also fucked MY wife while I watched him do it.

My point is that I have never fucked a woman without there being an "emotional" connection of some kind. I just could not pick-up a woman in a bar and take her to my room and fuck her! That would never work for me!

The drawback to having this emotional connection to the women we fuck is that we will suffer later, and sometimes greatly. That is true in every case for me. For instance, the friend who shared his wife with me is now dead, and I have been agonizing about whether I should find her and ask to fuck her again, because I know that is what he would want me to do. These are not easy questions!

 

I think you should track her down and ask her if she wants to fuck you, "because I feel that's what he would want."

 

This.

Yea, don't have too much more to say than that.

And that I'm not sure why the OP is concerned about how many people someone they don't know has slept with. And maybe the writer didn't mention safe sex because it's no one else's business anyway. Hmm. yea, just a thought.

 

Personally I think that as long as both partners are being safe when it comes to sex and that nobody gets hurt, I say go for it regardless of what sex the student is.

Just my own thoughts like!

 

It's not about the numbers. If all is consenting and safe then there should be no problem with it regardless of gender. Some people don't want to be in a relationship but really enjoy sex. 29 partners would be easy for that person. I would think that would be in one year easily. I'm not one to judge morals. If I was single and horny i'm going to find a piece of ass, end of story.

 

Consensual Physical Enjoyment makes either party neither one or the other - just Lovers ... of the act itself

 

That's probably true. I have only known of one woman who admitted to around that number, in a conversation about 'Four Weddings and a Funeral' and a scene where the female character admits to 40.