Today my girlfriends older cousin approached me with an idea, she and her husband are looking into spicing there sex life. Her idea is to have a foursome with her husband her cousin and I. Her husband is straight. Cousin is bi curious. My girlfriend i believe to be bicurious as well. I am bi. I am aware of all the things needed to be established about boundries and what not, the cousin and her husband will be setting boundries before we approach my girlfriend. that is the question of course how do we approach my girlfriend and who should be the one to do it, me or her cousin?
Be careful. If you start making arrangements without your girlfriend knowing, you could be into a world of trouble. You need to talk to her first and see if she is into it at all.
May be best to let her cousin approach her? If they are close cousins than the two girls could talk it out together and you guys wait for them to hash out the details and ground rules. Just tell the cousin and husband that they need to talk to your wife. If you are bi then I wouldn't dare approach the straight husband with it. Look but don't touch is the rule in that respect.
If you have never even talked to your girlfriend about swinging then don't just throw this at her! People that do this sort of thing are only successful if they communicate openly with each other about it. If you don't do that then it is not going to work.
Why should anything that relates to multiple partner sexual exploits in a forum that is dedicated to such things be found weird?
So you think seeing your own cousin getting plowed by your significant other is something that wouldn't be weird for you?
I also find the fact that its the cousin a bit weird...I personally couldn't engage in a foursome with a cousin, however, maybe not considered weird here. Regardless, I would let your girlfriend in on the discussion asap and make sure she knows it was the cousin approaching you...if she gets all weirded out about it you don't want her thinking this was your idea and and that you approached the cousin.....and if you all do too much planning with out your girlfriends knowledge she my feel you already secured her participation in it.
i can understand where your comin from because i have a very attractive cousin & wife that lived a bi life & i myself have bi curiosoties so 2 b approached by cousin & asked 2 do that would be tempting. i no som will say weird bcause of family tie but when u enjoy sex & the ppl r attractive thenu wonder no matter wat at least. i'd prob b willing 2 c wife go down on cousin while cousin bf is getting me or even bang my cousin if a situation in doing the foursome brought it about but c n her naked would not bother me at all.
'Weird' is not really the term. If I had a partner I don't think I'd want to share them with anyone, be it in a 3some or a 4some, regardless of whether it be with relatives or a total strangers. However, as it happens, when I was a kid my cousin joined us on a family holiday where my parents were in one caravan while my cousin & I were in another. At the time he was extremely naive & despite his having a limited knowledge of where babies came from & how they got there he knew absolutely nothing of the potential pleasures the physical side of things had in store, so I introduced him to the joys of masturbation, which has still a relatively new skill to me. For much of the remainder of that week we spent a great deal of time in Mutual Masturbation sessions. While this is hardly uncommon among teenage boys (and probably girls) if I had a partner and, for some reason she wanted to participate in a 4some, I think I would prefer that it was with someone, such as my cousin, with whom I had already experienced a level of sexual encounter. Furthermore, bear in mind that cousins are able to marry, so it wouldn't even be classed as incestuous.
from my experience it's an incredible turn-on to see someone else fucking your partner. My wife and I hafd a threesum with another biguy for around four months and I used to love guiding his cock into my wife's vagina - I used to play with his prostate and watch his cock slide in and out and hear their orgasms - a real turn-on Simon :sunny:
It really was a turn-on for me to watch my wife being shagged by another man and her giving him head. We also did a spit-roast. You know what the strangest thing was? When we were laying on the bed all of us naked, he was facing my wife, she was playing with his cock and I was against her back playing with her boobs and carrying on a normal conversation not about sex at all. What was weird (later feelings) is that it didn't feel awkward or weird at all at the time.
For me, there is nothing more erotic than seeing my girlfriend and another guy totally enjoy each other sexually. There's no explaining it. You either get it or you don't. As far as the cousin thing, it all depends. I have some cousins I see regularly and am close with and sex with them would feel incestuous, while I have other cousins I rarely see and barely know and sex with them would feel like sex with a stranger.
I have a niece (22yrs old) who I find is very attractive & she's got a fantastic figure. She' wears clothes that reveal her cleavage very nicely too. In fantasy only, I would like to watch someone seduce her. But no, I wouldn't want to watch my wife in a 3 or 4 some. But her with another woman seducing her - that would be a great turn for me.
The question isn't if it is weird here. The question is whether it's weird to the girlfriend. "My bi-curious cousin wants me to be part of a foursome ...." There are three non-standard components to that simple proposition, "bi-curious", "foursome" and "cousin". How many of the four are cool with all three of those components?
I think if you're talking about a foursome, adding second degree incest just makes the story better. Besides its lesbian incest, so its fine I wouldn't post the pictures on Facebook, but rock on. As for asking the wife, yeah, dangerous ground but talking early and often is best. Only you will know how and when to bring it up but I wouldn't procrastinate.
My two cents would be, that if you're not even certain of her sexuality, you should probably get to know each other's sexual sides better before popping a q like, "hey wanna have sex with your cousin and her hubby and me?" I dunno. My girlfriend and I talk about just about anything openly, one might almost say clinically. If we wanted to have sex outside the two of us, we'd talk about it easily, and wouldn't have to ask for outside help. (We have actually talked about it at length, and are completely in tune with and comfortable with where the other stands.) When you get to that level of openness and comfort, then I would say you can feel safe asking such a knife-edge dangerous question. Otherwise, I would approach veeeeeerry cautiously, my friend!
Foursomes are much more difficult to put together than mere "threesomes". There are so many relationships which have to be exactly right. It is very rare for any married couple to find another married couple in which each of the four persons is attracted to the other person of the opposite sex. My wife and I did take place in a foursome once, but it was with a couple in which the other man had fucked my wife several times before, while I watched, and I had also fucked his wife while he watched. But in all those cases, the "other" wife was not there. We did manage to get together later for a foursome, and though it was terribly exciting, I can honestly say that it was not that much more exciting than when I just watched while he fucked my wife. But, it was great: the four of us naked on the bed together, him fucking my wife, while I fucked his wife beside them. I don't remember who came first, but we all seemed to cum together. I loved emptying my cum into his wife's ****, while knowing he was doing the same to mine.
