19yrs Old and Needs Advise...

Alright Freinds here is the scoop to start off im 19 yr old bi polar stoner from oregon who dosnt take his meds. Iv been with my GF for 3 months now and things are hitting a idk, " rough patch " See she does lil things that have been really getting my goat , she might step on my pillow or sit on it , and im not taking a couch pillow im talking about the 1 i used to sleep with on me head. Things like that.And She has Sexual hang ups that i just.... dont understan for lack of better words now , she dosnt like to give head or take anal penatration, now i dont know anyother way of saying this but... I expect 1 or the other, now its 1thing if u dont wanna get fucked in the ass if u suck dick, but if u NEVER take it in the butt , and i have to begg u to give me head, i mean... hmm , i have expectations. And Trust is a issue i worry about now , i dont know if its just me becuz she says up and down she dosnt lie to me , but i feel she does.
and becuz i dont trust her iv started wearing condoms again.


Anywho, she called me 1day just after i land ( sober up ) from a 6 hit acid trip n i tell her i want to break up.... she starts off with emotioanl hodge podge and i get uncomfortable and retract the statement and say well lets go on a break then. But now im kinda stuck, i dont know if i should leave her or stay... So im thinking Make a list of pros n cons about what we want in a one another as GF and BF and then convine and try 2 fullfill some of the things on our cons list .

Example : she feels that i idk have a temper, so i would try 2 ease up a bit and controll myself.
Somthing like that... do you think this is a good idea, should i try to make it work or should i leave.... ne thougths would be great thanks!!!

 

So your breaking up with her because she won't fufill your sexual demands? Sorry man but thats a pretty lame reason.

 

TALK!
Tell her, tell here every detail.

Stay for a while all you can do is learn and maybee gettign through a rough patch will move you farther in the relationship.

Talk to her every chance you get. Hell takeing a tripp with her on L and going in and out of every detail off your relation ship could do wonders.

 

You can blow dude, Im looking for happiness , and sex is apart of that happiness... and if u read that all the way u would c that its more then just sex such as a lack of trust....


Some of it i like lil things getting on my nerves might has something to do with me not taking my meds.... so i kinda let that go for the most part

 

It seems to me that you're not looking for relationship but for sex and that you don't really care for this girl.

 

well, if you're not happy than leave the girl. Its not your problem that she wont put out even after 3 years. Also, if you have trust issues, than why bother staying with her if she is getting busy with someone else.

 

you dont sound like you want to be with her, and like youre just looking for any excuseu you can to break up with her. you dont want to be with her, end it

 

Its sounds like she needs to get away from you so do her a favor. You do know that it is very dangerous to be using acid when you are bi polar. Get off the hard drugs and take your medication.

 

Well c i dont know if she is or isnt, It hasnt been 3years, but 3months , well in all honesty i dont really think shes sleeping around on me ... but i still dont trust her like i should and i wonder if thats just me maybe i dont let myself trust her...

its a thought thats came across my mind

 

Do her a favor and just end it...

You sound like a jerk...

 

Yes another thought that has crossed my young confused mind...
See the problem i have with this idea is that i do care about her , Now she tells me all the time she loves me , i dont love her, i care for her ... i alot of time like being with her, and even during this break were on i do miss her.
I do care alot about sex, but i also care about her ... if i didnt id just fuck her and not worry about her emotions , her emotions is why im asking for you alls advice.

 

that made me laugh honestly

"very dangerous"

 

Do some reasearch into the subject. Its your brain though.

 

Oh , i had thought u had done the research and had knowlege on the topic
... since u made the comment


i c i was mistaken

 

Really, she and most others dont think that... whats gave you that impression, i really am a nice young man haha

 

Well Just a heads up freinds

I started talking with her about how i felt and so far the pros and cons list idea has worked... Now her and i both kno what is is about one another that in respect to our relationship we could work on ... she didnt have many things on her cons list for me witch stiked me as odd cuz i know sometimes when im manic i get aggatated easy.And if im depressed its like she isnt even there untill we smoke some herb and im laughing and somewhat livly.
she said that she wanted to " fix" any of her cons... and that kinda makes me think . I dont want to just up and change herand make her my lil person , i still want her to be herself,I dont want to be a controlling boyfreind but i think im heading down that road.

Im thinking to myself. " Just maybe my bi polar effects me more then id thought. Maybe I might be controlling her more becuz im not incontroll of myself ...Id hate to admitt it but its possible im goin to have to take meds for this to work out and work out well"

With that said im taking real care with how i handle the situation

 

What do I look like, your doctor. I am not going to sit here and find sources(though they are easy to find) and type every possible outcome of drug use while being bi polar. They are your brain cells to protect not mine.

 

I dont expect you to be a doctor, i dont know ur profession .I dont expect you to sit and do anything for me . I just assumed since u said " Dont you know its dangerous and all that " that You sir, would have evidence of this , since u made the statement so i assumed u could back it up , maybe you knew something i didnt . Thats all , i never asked you to find anything for me.
Have a good day.. i guess lol

 

This is what you said. I will bold what I, personally, think is jerky and will highlight red my responses

"Alright Freinds here is the scoop to start off im 19 yr old bi polar stoner from oregon who dosnt take his meds (If you can't take care of yourself, KNOWING you have mental issues, why would/should you even have a girlfriend?). Iv been with my GF for 3 months now and things are hitting a idk, " rough patch " See she does lil things that have been really getting my goat , she might step on my pillow or sit on it (Who the fuck cares? I mean really, it's a frickin' pillow. Wash your stupid pillowcase if it bothers you that much...and I know she doesn't do it to make you mad, who would?), and im not taking a couch pillow im talking about the 1 i used to sleep with on me head. Things like that.And She has Sexual hang ups that i just.... dont understan for lack of better words now , she dosnt like to give head or take anal penatration, now i dont know anyother way of saying this but... I expect 1 or the other (OH you EXPECT it, huh? Hmmm, sounds like a real "high and mighty" type thing to say...well, if I was her, I'd say "well expect to not get a damn thing from me!"), now its 1thing if u dont wanna get fucked in the ass if u suck dick, but if u NEVER take it in the butt , and i have to begg u to give me head (Those are two very different sexual acts...maybe she's not comfortable...maybe she's not ready...how dare you pressure her into doing anything she might not be comfortable with. If you expect something, that just shows how much you DON'T care for her, instead you only care about getting yourself off..) i mean... hmm , i have expectations (Maybe you should just find someone else then!). And Trust is a issue i worry about now , i dont know if its just me becuz she says up and down she dosnt lie to me , but i feel she does. (Why would anyone want to be with someone that doesn't trust them? If you are so convinced she's lying to you, why would you WANT to be with her anyway. You're doing nothing but making her feel like a piece of shit...)
and becuz i dont trust her iv started wearing condoms again. (You should be wearing condoms anyway...)"

 

Dancer, Really are all ladies out of michigan like you?

Ok really in all seriousness . I do take care of myself ,I work , feed and cloth myself , money for hedonistic desires n phycodelics and As far as the pillow issue is concernd in my own defence , it wasnt the pillow its self being step'd on see, it was the princible. I found it disresectful.
Furthermore on the topic of anal sex vrs Blowjobs, Yes i DO expect it one or the other, is that really all to much to ask? I see it as a fine compramise, it isnt as if she wanted her lil pussy eaten i would go down and do it(and i say lil not to be condisending but becuz its tight...I know how you mongrals think) .

You are right, it is wrong to pressure her. I honestly did try to find means of convaying my displeasement with our sex life to her without sounding like a what was it you said so well, oh yes jerk.
Lets see next point of descustion is...
TRUST!!!
Attractive ladies are hard to trust , People are hard to trust, you never know when someone is trying to play you .