19 years without hitting a woman though she was asking for it

No, no it is not as bad as it sounds she was asking for it

I mean she was actually craving it. I consider my self a pretty vanilla slightly bi guy but I never thought I would even try kink. I guess I am in Portland so it was bound to happen.

It is confusing, I feel like I just found out I am bi all over again and honestly It was pleasurable, but I found that it was quite arousing. She said I would look at her with pity and right before I would hit her there would be this `red haze` of anger. There was a point were she asked to stop and I of course complied.

I do not know if it is wrong to enjoy it. I was biting her hard, her neck was all detailed with my teeth. It might not been all sadism too she would gasp when I hit her hard and pull me closer or fight back (she would then want me to crush her attempts at resistance)

For so long I have always tried to be gentle to women, and assumed that my sadism was something evil something I need to hide and extinguish. So the idea of kink is so odd. I also like the girl so I do not mind hitting her if that is what she wants, I do not know how I would feel about someone else

So in the end I am asking you, do think kink is healthy? is alright to hurt people who want to be hurt?

 

A perfectly healthy outlet for penned up emotions =)

 

Depends how you both feel, if you had fun, she had fun and no one got hurt and it isn't disturbing either of your lives, then it's fine.

Having said that, there is nothing wrong with saying to yourself "I think this is mindfucking me and it is not healthy for me". if that is how you feel, but you do not need to feel guilty about kinky sex if is completely consensual.

 

Sounds like fun

 

I suppose that sounds ok as long as both of you conscent.

 

Kink is only as healthy as the participants. (SSC)

Based on your past posts, you are not even remotely a healthy participant.


<--Sadist, Rope Slut and general fetishist. Kink is grand.

 

Just read the posts. I completely agree

 

I agree but at the same time because it is consensual sex, I think he can make whatever decsion he likes. even if maybe we're right and he shouldn't, it is one of those things that is fair if he makes either choice.

 

There's a certain amount of passion that comes along with it. Anger is a very primal emotion and fear a very powerful aphrodisiac.

 

i think it's perfectly healthy as long as it stays safe!

 

I just read them - I changed my answer to this.