17 Year Old Having Trouble Getting Up...

I've been with a girl for a few months now. She's my best friend, so clearly I feel super comfortable around her. So, with her and any time before, I've never had trouble getting hard. Then, one night we're hooking up and I'm fully erect, but the moment we get undressed, I'm only half erect and decreasing...Thankfully, she was incredibly sympathetic and passed no judgement (at least out loud...). So, after a few more minutes of hooking up and writhing in self pity, I actually got pretty hard and we were able to have sex (lost my virginity). Three days later, she came to my house and we were hooking up and again, I was very hard. I didn't expect sex, so I stupidly left my condoms on another floor. We were going at it, and we got ready, but I told her to wait a minute and I ran downstairs to get a condom, and my mother was in the same room as my condoms, so I got really nervous, but finagled a condom from a drawer and went back upstairs. We started hooking up again and I got pretty hard, but then my mother calls up to me asking for something mundane. So, my girl nervous about this whole thing considering my parents, but we tried to keep going. But, I couldn't get hard, at all. After a few minutes, we just stopped because I wasn't hard enough. She was incredibly sympathetic, but I was still crushed and felt lesser of a man. I've done some research and I know smoking and drinking and being out of shape is bad, but I don't drink, don't smoke, and I'm very fit. Can anyone help?

 

Nothing like having sex while mom is right next door


Get your test levels checked. And take a zinc supplement

 

Sounds like anxiety. Most guys get anxiety the first couple of times. Just relax

 

I think we really need to know what the mother asked for.

 

Having to worry about your mom bursting in while having you having sex seems like a legitimate mood killer to me. Try to find some romantic alone time, and I suspect all your problems will be solved.

 

I think it's because she your best friend

 

BULLSHIT! ZINC IS THE ABSOLUTE WORST SOLUTION! Gensing may be helpful (i.e. Panex Korean Gensing aka Ginsanna). At Walgreens, there is a supplement called "Power V"--take 1/3 of a tablet (i.e. ignore the instructions in the back because they'll suggest way too much).

Furthermore, this situation is common amongst those with ADHD because dopamine (which causes the disorder) is an aphrodisiac. If you are, in fact, ADHD, try sex with your meds (which enhances sensory stimulation & reduces anxiety). Also, sometimes, once Adderall/Ritalin has worn off at the end of the day, arousal &/or climaxing can be a little more difficult.


Other possible causes: Prozac (or other SSRI's, such as Zoloft,Paxil, Lexapro, & Celexa).

 

Go to your doctor and get viagra

 

When I was 17 I never had a problem getting a boner. But then I wasn't banging my GF in my bedroom either. Once in hers, until I was nearly caught by her daddy (Boy if THAT ain't a mood killer, nothing is!)

 

Do not go get VIAGRA.. What a horrible suggestion.

You're probably nervous or feeling guilty about the sneaky factor. Your body and mind could be in disagreement, and your penis is losing the fight.

You may not be emotionally ready to be doing all this because if you can't focus, can't relax, and can't fuck a girl somewhere besides your Mom's house WHEN SHE'S HOME then you ain't ready for something and your wang is letting you know.

I know this is a hippie forum but fuck that free love shit. Free love get's you babies and VD and I am not about either one.

Don't forget it kid.. Ain't nothing free and ain't nothing pricier than pussy when you account for all the trouble that comes with it.

 

find a nice quiet spot, away from your mother..and dont forget the condoms, better in your pocket than in a draw downstairs...

 

I couldn't get hard the first time I had the chance to fuck a chick. It was just nerves. Don't sweat it.........