So I'm sixteen, and I have an amazing boyfriend. I find him especially fantastic because the four boys I've gone out with before didn't pretty much nothing for me... but this guy will have me slippery and dripping in a few minutes. anyway, I feel really reluctant to have sex with him though. Yeah I once let myself be sexually abused and such, but I've gotten over that and done all the forgiving I need to. So girls, when you were/are my age, did you feel 'ready?' I'm also interested to hear from somewhat experienced guys (and no, that's not code for gabino, I'm interested in what the rest of you have to say as well) whether they find 16 year olds are generally more reluctant than girls a little older than that. I'm wondering whether I still have issues with the abuse thing.