1000 Facebook "Friends" Ignore Woman's Suicide

I think the only difference now is that it is happening online... People have always ignored others that needed help and thought nothing of it. Its just becoming more obvious online.

 

I have seen the same thing here and there, find a lot that on site where OP can post anonymously .. Fb gets to much media attention when it happens daily on all forums.

 

This is true

Probably because it's easier to ignore when you don't have to look the person in the face.

 

but theres so much online drama posted that in all fairness I'm pretty sure the friends didnt know if she was telling the truth or not





if they tallied the "online" suicide staements against the ones who actually did it I bet it would be less than 1 in 50 thousand

 

That's happened here before. I once joked about it because I didn't know the person was serious. With so many people venting and expressing negativity, feelings, etc. it's near impossible to know when someone is serious and when they're not.

 

As an example of what I mean;

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/154012/man_dies_in_front_of_tv_and_no_one_pg2.html?cat=8

Man Dies in Front of TV and No One Finds His Mummified Body for a Year

It was December of that year he died.

One would think that at the very least, the woman who had been reading his mail, as she was his neighbor, would have noticed the mail box being full... What did she think?

The neighbors who talked about him not being heard from, just shrugged it off and continued their lives...

 

this is really sad. i take these sort of post very seriously. i have before and will again call the local authorities if someone is not capable of doing it for them self when they are very obviously crying for help.

repeated cries for help and/or suicide attempts can be draining on others not trained to handle these sorts of things. it's really sad that this woman was ignored when she needed it the most.

this said, anyone here that needs help.. or someone to talk to.. please feel free to PM me anytime.. i can at least listen/read and offer an e-hug if nothing else.

 

If I saw someone post that on my facebook I wouldn't believe it was serious.

 

Suicide is very dumb. My best friend took pills a month before he was to be my best man. Why? Because he was depressed. He ended up hurting everyone he new. That was 8 years ago and I still think about him everyday.

 

"Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem."

For all of the sparring I get into on here I take suicide threats seriously.

But the thing is about being online is that there are alot of attention whores. The other thing is it is also so simple to create an online profile that has absolutely no bearing on reality. I know it says on my profile I'm in Berkeley but I could just as easily be in Lithuania.

When I was in Europe years ago he told me about someone who killed himself infront of the Christmas Tree while it was plugged in. The newspaper wrote articles about this guy who celebrated Christmas year round. Then they found the body.

Stay Brown,
Rev J

 

Really, who has 1000 friends in RL?


950 of them probably barely knew her.....and why my FB is for FRIENDS I actually want to keep in touch with, and limited to 50 only....


Its like a status symbol on FB to have all these "friends"

 

It makes sense that the Internet would have the "bystander effect" worse than any real life situation.

 

This incident is a darn shame but I think the net has helped save many lives that would have ordinarily been lost. Lots of cops, paramedics, firemen etc. have been notified by online peeps in time to save others' lives.

 

You seem like you are a really good person... just wanted to let you know

This is so sad but I am not surprised. People definitely think that if something is online it isn't serious and doesn't mean anything. But obviously this isn't true.

But I also agree with Tom that even offline, there is a general lack of caring about others, which is really sad to see.

 

well, I worked in a jail and a inmate was in his cell for 2days dead, died of natural causes... There is no standing count, he was simply overlooked as being asleep..

 

I actually had a friend once who had tried (hard) to kill himself. He went online and told his friend, who lived on the other side of the country, over MSN what he had done. His friend then phoned this guy's dad who went into his room and found him almost unconscious. The guy is alive today and very happy to be so. He and his friend grew apart awhile after that though.

 

Not surprising but it is disappointing.

Even on this site it happens. Those who try to help are often wading through the smart comments to do so.

On this site years back there was someone who was not bluffing and it took over 5 hours on the phone with the police department in Montreal to track him down. He lived.

I was a member on another board where it also happened and it took the police hours to find him, thankfully in time.

If someone wishes to not get involved, then I also wish they might consider keeping the barbs out of it also.

If I see it and can do something to stop them, I will.

 

Wow !
Here I am a dumb girl trying to make real friends in person.

When Facebook is so much easier and better because afterall...
I guess you just can't beat those virtual friends!!
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