Pregnant wife completely different personality

I need to complain because since I'm busy comforting her incessant crying and whining I obviously can't complain to her, the only person I'm around.

My wife used to love sex, she's super hot, and she had the most positive outlook of anyone I know, so sweet, happy, inteligent and fun.

Now all she does is whine, demand things, and cry. I know, I know, she's pregnant, she has an excuse, but that excuse doesn't change the fact that my life has gone from fun and sex with a lovely person to constantly waiting hand and foot on a person who never stops complaining or shows any gratitude. She's so whiny I can hardly remember what her normal voice sounds like, when I try to picture it I just hear this nasal shrill complaining voice.

It's not even about being pregnant, maybe it's hormones or something but she's been complaining about everything. Just recently she asked for a snack so I brought her some granola, which she usually loves, she told me she meant apricots then whined that I was wearing shoes, I took off my shoes and she whined that I didn't put them in the right spot. That despite that fact that I have taken over all cleaning and cooking. And when I say the complaining doesnt stop I mean from the minute I get in the door from work till well after we go to bed. I try to be comforting, but she just blames everything on me, which makes it hard to stay nice, and if I persist in trying to comfort her it doesn't help, it's like trying to carry someone on your back while they're punching you. When not pregnant she was a lot smarter and nicer than this, how am I going to put up with this for 5 more months?

And on top of that I've gone from getting sex daily to almost never, and she gets mad if I even try.

She's complaining that my keyboard clicking is annoying...

Dick in her mouth will shut her up..

Wow...you're marriage is not gunna last once she has the kid if you are whining this much about her when she's pregnant.

When the baby comes, plan on having sex once a month-at best.

Her hormones are going insane. Give the poor woman a break and try putting yourself in her shoes for a minute. She's dealing with a lot.

I am sympathetic, that's why I'm still being nice to her and venting about it elsewhere.

I know how she feels!

Being pregnant completely changes your personality, not only is your body flooded with all these crazy hormones but your senses and feelings are extremely heightened. What may seem a small issue to you, could be major in her eyes. It really is like a personality swap. And I hate to say this, but as a mum to a now 14 month old, I have only just gotten back to my normal self, the hormones don't magically disappear after birth, infact it takes 18 months for a womans body to go completely back to how it was before (not just physical body btw)..

But I understand your frustrations too, it was actually the opposite for me, I was the one wanting sex everyday and not getting it from my partner.

He was always stressed at me for being stressed at the world but being pregnant isn't easy, although it may be for some, for others it is a major change that really really effects the pregnant womans body. Just remember, right now, her body is catering for an always growing and learning baby, one that needs everything she has in order to survive.

Its hard but it passes eventually..

Mate just try and ride this wave with her.

Being pregnant really sucks, but once that baby is here don't expect things to instantly be normal, it takes about 6 months for hormones to get to pre-pregnancy state and if shes breastfeeding as well.........

It sucks but I can assure once you see that lil bub it'll melt your heart and you'll look at her differently.

They sell wives on the internet for people like you.

I am sure that you are not complaining because it is normal whininess and complaining associated with pregnancy, but more than that. Is this her first child? Maybe she is under the impression that it is the norm for women to act this way and so she is carrying it a little over board.

I have had 4 children and each pregnancy was different. There were times that things bothered me more than normal, especially in month 5 which for some reason was my "hostile" month during every pregnancy lol. and at the end when I was nesting, everything had to be perfect but I always did it myself, that was part of the nesting, I wanted the house MY way and noone else would be able to do it the way I wanted it.

Have you tried to explain to her that you are concerned that maybe her behavior isnt appropriate? I know, easier said than done but I am sure there is a way that you can approach her as kindly as possible and express your "concerns". Be advised that after the baby arrives, she could have post pardum depression and that is another story in itself. That is the time you want to be most delicate to her "feelings" because women have been known to be suicidal and homicidal at this time. It is serious, I went through it but not as bad as some, its so hard and you dont know why, you just know you are unhappy.

I hope it works out for you, have patience and be kind as much as you can. Oh, and saddle up with a dirty mag for a while. Having babies doesnt mean you will never have sex again. We have 4 children, have been married for years and have a great sex life, are still very attracted to one another and despite the fact he works more than 80 hours a week and I raise 4 kids and am a full time student, we still have more sex than any couple I know. Rabbits...best description I got.

Thanks MarleyMoon, your post was well thought out and comforting. I do realize that she isn't used to feeling this way, and I love her, I just wanted to whine a bit, hence posting in "the whiners", I wasn't expecting someone to actually make me feel a bit better and give me helpful insight, so thanks

no problem. pregnancy is a hard time for both parties involved. It will get easier and once that baby comes, nothing else will matter anyway