Thought I was in an open relationship, but now it seems closed?

Originally Posted by Met Income

She also knows Girl #1.

This might be your problem right here. Its one thing for your partner to screw around with people you haven't met or with people you've met through your partner screwing them. If its someone she already knows then its understandable she might feel wierded out by it or threatened.

At the end of the day all you can do is let her know you want it and try and ease any concerns she has. If girl #2 is leaving that might help as it prevents any kind of long term relationship. But the essence of an open relationship is trust and openess, if you go ahead and screw girl #2 anyway despite being told no don't be surprised if you lose that.

I would be interested in an update since it's been about two weeks since you originally posted.

I have known several people in open relationships and attended a swingers group that met at a bar where I used to live. The couples there had been at it for awhile and were very comfortable sharing, but they almost all had the same rule: start the night together, end the night together. Everyone of the couples knew that their partner was there with them regardless of who they were currently having sex with, and they always came back together at the end of the night.

I mention this because it would be my advice to you : if girl 1 is not comfortable with girl 2, than forget girl 2 because another girl 2 will come around eventually. until she does, be with girl 1, go to the swingers clubs, and everything under her conditions, and slowly open her up to the ideas of being in an open relationship remembering the rule above. If you always make sure she knows her place in your life and the relationship, she will either be comfortable enough to let you have girl 2 (or whoever girl 2 is at the moment) or she will stay the same. If she proves to stay the same, than you might want to reevaluate your feelings about open relationships, or find someone who's really interested in one.