How do you deal with....

Over-protective controlling parents who refer to your chores as your "job"?
I have a certain time I need to be in my bed at, and a certain time I need to be up and doing my designated chores. I wake up to at least 3 lists of chores (all saying the sane exact things). I get talked to like I'm an incompetent child, who is a spoiled brat and demands material things.
I'm 23 and fucking sick of this. It doesn't matter whether I do the chores on time, follow rules, don't talk back, & cook dinner 3 times a week, I get yelled at either way.
I follow the rules, I get in trouble. I break the rules, I get in trouble.
Not to mention the double standards in this house. It's the "house rule" that computers aren't allowed in bedrooms. Yet, everyone has their laptop in their room. The only one who's not allowed to? Me.


How do I deal with this shit? I'm really getting tired of it. And therapy doesn't help, we've tried it and my parents go back to the sane shit.
Their parenting obviously has flaws, my older sister is anorexic, my brother I'd a shut in, and my other other brother killed himself at 24. Now I know why...

you're 23! move the fuck out!

Obviously, if it were that simple, I would have fucking done it by now, don't you think? Nothing is ever as simple as we'd like.

why is it not that simple?

It's just not. I have to deal with this shit for the time being until I'm able to leave.

it's the internet, you don't need to keep secrets.

With the information were given there really isnt much to say except that its time for you to move out. Do you have a job? If not, thats step one. At 23 if you aren't happy living with your parents then you shouldn't be. There's no other advice to give unless you let us in on why you cant move out. All I can say is that you need to try and expedite whatever it is that needs to happen before you can move out.

Originally Posted by Afifreak44

It's just not. I have to deal with this shit for the time being until I'm able to leave.

this is your answer

you just have to deal with it until you're able to leave

Originally Posted by BBAD

this is your answer

you just have to deal with it until you're able to leave

But that's the thing, I can't deal with it much longer. I almost socked my mom in the face today.

There's a very complex story behind my situation.


Basically, I can't move out because of my health issues.

he's an aspie

find a job that you could maintain and move out...they can't keep you in their house because of your health. it is YOUR health.