How important is sex in a relationship?

Originally Posted by Rosehippy

Why debase a beautiful thing. i have a new saying. The words of a kind, caring heart are angelic (siezed) The attempt to debase and mock those words are evil.

You boring man. Siezed, unconditional lover. Not boring. Nice. you get?

In the end you end up having to pay for the behaviour of the rest of the sisterhood whether you like it or not

Some girls will talk about waiting 6 months for a connection, which really just means waiting to see if he's going to stick around, and mean it. Whereas some will just use that as a front and sneak around in secret, some will throw it in in a heartbeat as soon as they get a better offer, some just to get the attention, some just to be mean to another girl.

And in the end everyone else only has your word on it.

Giving into that instant raw thing, you meet a guy for the first time and instantly cant concentrate, cant stop thinking about him ravishing you then and there.....is evil? Most will put on the same act, but no ones really going to believe that

Originally Posted by Vanilla Gorilla

In the end you end up having to pay for the behaviour of the rest of the sisterhood whether you like it or not

Some girls will talk about waiting 6 months for a connection, which really just means waiting to see if he's going to stick around, and mean it. Whereas some will just use that as a front and sneak around in secret, some will throw it in in a heartbeat as soon as they get a better offer, some just to get the attention, some just to be mean to another girl.

And in the end everyone else only has your word on it.

Giving into that instant raw thing, you meet a guy for the first time and instantly cant concentrate, cant stop thinking about him ravishing you then and there.....is evil? Most will put on the same act, but no ones really going to believe that

Absolutely 100% wrong. It has nothing to do with HIM sticking around. Sex is way too emotionally involved, and it's not something you can develop so soon in a relationship, it's about me finding the affection for another person because I do not ever ever have sex with someone that I don't really really care about or love.

Vanilla is overgeneralizing a lot of things lately, try not to take offense seized, he's obviously been burned one to many times, to the point where he's lost the will to judge each person and scenario on a case by case basis.

As for my own opinion I think for me I need to know how old I am before I answer this question.

But one thing is for certain, if there's no sex she better be a dang good cook.

Fucking essential and if my right hand ever said "NO" it would be over.

Originally Posted by Rosehippy

Why debase a beautiful thing. i have a new saying. The words of a kind, caring heart are angelic (siezed) The attempt to debase and mock those words are evil.

You boring man. Siezed, unconditional lover. Not boring. Nice. you get?

not . this saying focused in girls that are not interested in sex . but when these kind of girl , meet a nice men with sex experience . in few words she was kind , he made slut .

I call my wife my "little bunny" we have been married almost 15yrs and we enjoy sex daily. It would be hard to go without. I love my wife and Id stay with her no matter what. I would never seek satisfaction outside of the relationship though because I think it would be depressing for her knowing she couldnt give it to me. We'd find a way to be happy im sure.

It would really depend on why they were unable to…and it would most definitely need to be medical or maybe even mental/psychological (which in itself is still medical), but yes I would stay. I think the test with this question depends on the age of everyone here and the amount of time they’ve been with their partners. But if my husband was just all of a sudden unwilling to have sex out of the blue, for prolonged periods to indefinitely then yes I would question it and the relationship and assume he was no longer feeling attracted to me.

There’s a large difference between not being able to have sex much or at all anymore and just not really wanting to. We have sex nearly mainly every second day or everyday if possible. So I’ll pick the former, because I love my husband enough to not mind if it’s not really achievable anymore…and I would hope he’d think the same of me if I was in the same situation.

I would want some sort of sexual gratification. Say if her vagina stopped workin (lmao), I'll hope she'll get used to the ideal of anal sex. If no anal, oral would be a must.

Sex is not just a penis going into a vagina. It is a whole range of physical intimacy that even very old people can share with one another.

I can't imagine expressing marital love without some of that expression being in a sexual context. The only way I can imagine it being impossible would be if one of us had a long term assignment far away (like in the Navy) and the other one was stuck at home with no way to love body to body. That kind of situation is very stressful and it takes a lot of strength of will to wait it out.

If she refuses to share some kind of body intimacy, then we both need marriage counseling or divorce.