So, first post so be gentle
Was with my gf this weekend, not been seeing each other long, its semi long distance so i usually see her on weekends, i stay at hers, this was about the 7th time seeing each other and 3rd time we would be having sex
First time was fine, ill be honest and say it was my first time in about 3 years (even though im 21) and I came a little too quickly for my liking, but that aside, no problems
Second time, I focused more on her in the foreplay, and while thrusting tried to calm myself and hold it for longer, which I imagine is normal perhaps? Anyway, came again with no problems, she seemed pretty satisfied, said i made her come, for the first time in a year. So i was pretty glad with that too.
This time however.... tried having sex on the friday night. Just would not happen. I slipped out like 6-7 times before i faked it. Felt so so ashamed but w/e. I dunno if i was slipping on her sheets, i really couldnt get comfortable, even though it was the same missionary type position as before. Or maybe she was gyrating her hips in a way that meant she pulled away as i pulled back so i slipped out. I dunno.
Following night, tried again. pleasured her a couple of times leading up to it, went in again, and it just wasnt happening. I didnt slip out but again i wasnt comfortable and just, it didnt feel right. I fake it, and then as I'm pulling out, the condom stays in...it comes totally off my penis, and is just left sticking out of her. SO MUCH EMBARASS....My level of internal shame building even more, and hey it might have something to do with it. But yeah so that.
THIRD TIME THAT WEEKEND, the next morning. Go for it again, pleasure her some, go for some morning delight, and here is where I think i get the problem.
Let me just say, I have NEVER EVER EVER had a problem being hard. Im not that sexually experienced AT ALL, even in basic stuff like kissing so normally even things like slight sexual hinting, and id be right up like a flag pole. Like I said, first 2 times with this girl i was rock solid.
So, here are my analyses, please give feedback, has this ever happened to you? please be honest, or is it something you have heard of before?
1. The condom is too tight. Its the exact same condom we used all 5 times, but the moment it when on, i drooped. How easy should it be to roll one down? SOmetimes it feels like it takes too much effort like im squeezing in (not trying to boast or anything, just what happens). I dont know the diamter of them, they were hers and she had no box. I bought some of my own, which are 57mm diameter, and put one on and it felt waaaaay easier, so could be this.
2. In my mind the sex is over. Let me say right now. Ive been without female romantic contact for like 4 years before this girl. I watched a lot of porn. If noones home for the day, I'd jerk it 4-5 times. This breeds a quick and easy ejaculation, where once its over, im back to flaccid in seconds. COuld this be whats happening? In my mind the sex is over, cus I've made her come by fingering (she told me im pretty good)? In my mind the sex is over, shes panting on the bed, so my hardon is gone?
3. Our foreplay is too long. Like I said before, I'm often hard from the get-go. This means that when i go to hers, i havent seen her in a week, we spend the day basically just in bed. Fooling around, cuddling, then fooling around some more, then more intense foreplay, then sex. This over like 2-4 hours. If I'm hard from the start, is it possible that I just cant keep it going for that long? I know I'm young but being rock hard for that whole time, and then hey maybe its a combo of the tight condom too, that just made it happen.
But so yeah, thats my ideas. Hope this post didnt turn out too long, like I said first time poster so be nice
I really like this girl, shes freaking out cus she thinks its her fault, i dont know if its my fault, or the condoms, or what, but I really want to fix this issue for this weekend.