being with a guy who doesnt have plans for his life - Page 2

**Crayola** · 08-21-2011, 03:58 PM

I think the problem with people who dont have a job or aren't financially independent is not really the money, its the lack of ambition in life in general. Its a problem when a person becomes a couch potato and refuses to do anything but play videogames. And wanting a guy who wants to accomplish something personal in his life (whether its thru having a good job or taking care of his family) is normal, it doesnt necessarily make u a gold-digger.

This comes from a woman who has been in love with guys who were out of work for years, or had pizza delivery jobs that didnt pay any rent, or had a passion for videogames and junk food. It never mattered, because the guys in question still had dreams and ambitions. They wanted to do something with their lives, which made them sexy to me.

**The Imaginary Being** · 08-21-2011, 04:05 PM

one of my life goals is to become a level 50 elite on halo multiplayer.

**Crayola** · 08-21-2011, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by The Imaginary Being

one of my life goals is to become a level 50 elite on halo multiplayer.

see, charisma

**walsh** · 08-22-2011, 05:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Crayola

I think the problem with people who dont have a job or aren't financially independent is not really the money, its the lack of ambition in life in general. Its a problem when a person becomes a couch potato and refuses to do anything but play videogames. And wanting a guy who wants to accomplish something personal in his life (whether its thru having a good job or taking care of his family) is normal, it doesnt necessarily make u a gold-digger.

This comes from a woman who has been in love with guys who were out of work for years, or had pizza delivery jobs that didnt pay any rent, or had a passion for videogames and junk food. It never mattered, because the guys in question still had dreams and ambitions. They wanted to do something with their lives, which made them sexy to me.

Why should your opinion matter to her? You like ambitious men. So what? Does that mean everyone should, or that all men should be ambitious? It always blows my fucking mind why some people seem to want to try to make everybody alike. I call them monoculturalists. I always picture their gardens with only one type of flower and wearing only one colour of clothes.

**Logan 5** · 08-22-2011, 08:55 AM

I have encountered that as a huge problem in having relationships. The women are far too interested in IF I have money. Sorry darlin', but if you're gonna marry me, we're in this together. They don't seem to get that. I've had relationships where the money I earned was ours yet the money she earned was for her. Wait a minute here. It's supposed to be a team! And then having to explain in sickening detail HOW I make money, I'm like "why the hell don't I just pay your way through umpteen years of college and then pay someone to hire you so you can learn all of the ins and outs?", because most usually they fail to realize that my occupation, I may not be an expert, but I was at one time (before my last accident) a respected member in the field. Having to explain in excruciating detail stuff that took me years to learn proficiently....?

I can understand being caring, and I can understand curiosity. I can understand a lot. But I cannot understand how is it that today's women are looking for bigger bang for the buck. Back in the days of our parents and grandparents, or even older, men and women didn't get into relationship as much based on the dollar like it is now. Explanation? Simple- the divorce rate has skyrocketed in the past 100 years.

When I was a kid, and I'm talking about 8-16 literally, I was talking with the old timers in my hometown asking them about relationships. Yeah, having a carer was important, but not the most important. Back then divorces were obscene. Now they are the way of the times. Back then is was a sin and sign of moral impurity. Now it's a sign of maturity and potency.
I'm sorry. That just doesn't float my boat. When I get my next wife, IF, I decide to waste my time with one, I plan on it being a long time until we split up. IF we split up. IF I get into a relationship.

My goal has been to satisfy myself and no one else. So long as I am happy, who am I to care? There have been times I changed my course and tried to make my ex-girlfriends or ex-wife happy. And nearly everytime I felt used and abused thus making me even more happier to go back to being a man for me.

Yeah it gets really lonely, but when you get kicked around and fucked over by the opposite sex long enough, you may still have a sexual attraction to them, but that's about where it ends. Relationships via the internet are good, because I don't have to live with them, I don't have to put up with them, and they don't have to put up with me.

My old attitude has new reasoning- my ex left me the day I nearly died. I was in a serious accident. As I was half naked on a stretcher in the emergency room, the nurse was changing my IV bottle, and I was on the phone to my wife and she said she wanted out. Nothing worse than that. If anything I needed her badly. I needed someone to give a damn if I lived or not.
But she wanted out.

So now I'm here for me and only me. Someday I might find a woman I might give a damn about. I even looked here at HF. But I'm not gonna die of loneliness.

**Faelixx** · 08-22-2011, 09:22 AM

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Originally Posted by lovelyxmalia

I think that finances play a big part and you should talk to him...other than that, I think that there is a lot more in a relationship then money.

being directionless has bigger consequences than a lack of money supply. It makes you depressed and listeless, gives you little to no hope for the future, and it is a huge strain on any relationship.

**FreshDacre** · 08-22-2011, 09:24 AM

ya i like how chronic said it i cant stant those kind of girls who just or mostly care about the money /job their man has i almost dont want to have ambition in life JUST because of these people lol .