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Old 02-04-2011, 03:20 PM   #1
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Sexual inexperience: who else feels it's a turn off?
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For as long as I can remember, I despised virgins. I lost my virginity to a woman 4 years older than myself (not a virgin), and have since been primarily with women who were older and more experienced than myself. Throughout my 20s, I've always sought sexually experienced partners and avoided "innocent" or prudish people.

Now that I am turning 34, my options appear to be shrinking fast. I am still very sexually active, fit, and single; but, with each sexual experience it seems like I become a part of a more and more select group of sexually experienced people. And with each sexual experience, it becomes more difficult for me to be attracted to average girls, even if they look astounding. I think to myself, "What can someone who's only had a couple boyfriends or who is sexually inhibited offer me in bed?"

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I know there are guys out there who love that. I've been told by some guys that they feel more like "a man" when they teach innocent young girls the tricks of the trade; and that's why they have a real hard-on for young chicks. Not to mention the fact that they can "claim" to be someone's first.

And now it feels that I'm starting to reverse my earlier leanings, and began having real poignant (possibly long repressed?) fantasies about younger women. Not pedophilic fantasies or anything (at least, not yet ). But I think it is happening as a way to counteract the fact that I am feeling more and more sequestered into an ivory tower of people who have had a significant amount of partners, have taken significant risks to get out of their comfort zones, and aren't in any way sexually inhibited.

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If you think of yourself as sexually experienced or if you're getting up there in age... Are you turned off by sexual inexperience? How does that affect your relationship with women in general? Do you feel more limited in your choice of partners? Do you fantasize about younger girls? Why?

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Old 02-04-2011, 03:35 PM   #2
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im 19..i like older men.. my boyfriend is only 2 years older :/ but i generally am attracted to older men...

i'd rather they know what theyre doin tho.. he was more experienced than me when we got together. i like a man who knows what hes doin. raawwrr haha..

i would hate to be the one teaching someone...

looks like i am you, when you were my age

EDIT: i know your lookin for male answers but i just felt like replying
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It sounds like perhaps your sexual preferences are changing as a way to preserve/ensure an active sex life for you. That or you're simply becoming more attracted to younger women because you're getting older, I don't know.

I'm not going to judge you, but I'm not going to comment on the younger girl thing because I don't feel that that is right, nor do I find them attractive whatsoever.

As for the virgin vs experience I know what you mean. A virgin (only sexually speaking) has nothing to offer if one is looking for really good sex. I've never seen virginity as some prize or belt notch. A sexually experienced woman who can get on top and rock your world is much more appealing and obviously has much more to offer.

That being said, I would think Cherea that you still have a very wide market available to you. Late 20s through late 30s singles, but on top of that there's probably a large group of 40 somethings who are fresh off a divorce and are not looking for anything serious except a good fuck as it's been a while.

Experience is definitely more appealing in contrast to lack thereof or prudishness.
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Old 02-04-2011, 03:45 PM   #4
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It sounds like perhaps your sexual preferences are changing as a way to preserve/ensure an active sex life for you. That or you're simply becoming more attracted to younger women because you're getting older, I don't know.
Thanks for responding. I think it is so. Yeah, one of the two.

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That being said, I would think Cherea that you still have a very wide market available to you. Late 20s through late 30s singles, but on top of that there's probably a large group of 40 somethings who are fresh off a divorce and are not looking for anything serious except a good fuck as it's been a while.
This is only relatively related to age, though. Some young girls have acquired a lot of experience in a short time-span. Whereas 40-year-old divorcees may still lack it.

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Experience is definitely more appealing in contrast to lack thereof or prudishness.
I think we see eye-to-eye on this issue.
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This is only relatively related to age, though. Some young girls have had a lot of experience in a short time-span. Whereas 40-year-old divorcees may still lack it.
Yea of course, I was just meaning to address this;

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I am feeling more and more sequestered into an ivory tower of people who have had a significant amount of partners.

While it's probably true that the available age group of women your age are getting paired off and settling...uh, I mean settling down, there is still the experienced younger crowd and the experienced older/freshly divorced crowd. Going beyond that there's the freshly widowed crowd
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Personally I do not worry about it. Experience has little to do with preference. To this date the best blowjobs I ever had were from my first sexual partner, and I was hers. My favorite sex was with another girlfriend who had not had sexual partners before me just like the former girl, but a close second was a girl 6 years older, with experience. And some of the least enjoyable sex I have had has been with people who have had many more partners.

With experience comes habit. With sexual inexperienced partners, you get the oppertunity to mold their habits to your preference. Ive done it to two different people, mentioned above, so I know it works on some level at least :P
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It's strange. Girls my age seem to assume I'm inexperienced but as it turns out I've had quite a good amount of experiance with older women who seem to like me a lot more than the girls in my age range.

More often than not the people I've been involved with were at least 5 years older than me. I've bridged the 16 year gap though. I was with a woman who had a kid older than me lol

I don't know why I have trouble connecting with girls my own age... you can't really be a free spirit and have any sort of meaningful relationship with someone who already has their life set in order... i dunno.
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I don't think it's as much about experience, but openness and just plain sexuality (my girlfriend started off pretty damn good, even though she's way better after all these years).
A lot of inexperienced girls might not be open to very much, and a lot may not have good sexual instinct or hunger; older ones, especially.
If you got yourself a lolita (don't) or lonely teenager with a little bit of instinct; I'm sure she'd be able to drive you wild.



I've always fantasized about more experienced (older) women the most; but sometimes I fantasize about a threesome where me and my girl are showing someone a little younger the ropes.
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Old 02-04-2011, 05:32 PM   #9
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I don't think it's as much about experience, but openness and just plain sexuality (my girlfriend started off pretty damn good, even though she's way better after all these years).
A lot of inexperienced girls might not be open to very much, and a lot may not have good sexual instinct or hunger; older ones, especially.
If you got yourself a lolita (don't) or lonely teenager with a little bit of instinct; I'm sure she'd be able to drive you wild.
I understand what you're saying on one level. However, I do feel like sexual experience with many partners is something I prize, regardless of sexual appetite.

Granted, the lolita could potentially drive me wild; but I'm thinking if she's truly uninhibited, either she'd be on her way to acquire experience with many more partners than myself and I would be a stepping stone to her (fine by me); or, she'd be seeking the kind of relationship you have with your girlfriend (freaky with one guy).

Although I can see the benefits and security in monogamy, I still strive for women who can be uninhibited in open relationships as well. Were I to enter a monogamous relationship one day, I would want a lengthy open stage first, I do believe.
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Although I can see the benefits and security in monogamy, I still strive for women who can be uninhibited in open relationships as well.
I definitely can identify with that =P

For me, I think it's mostly two things: variety is the spice of life and all
But also, that as much of a romantic sap I am, I've always idolized ladies men, not the total scum mind you; but the Clark Gable, Dean Martin-type -- and I started out with a ton of social anxiety -- and now that chicks actually dig me with some frequency, it kills me that I must inhibit myself


Any clue why do you take so much pride in their experience?
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