20 year old having a non-sexual relationship with a 14 year old.

Originally Posted by Sam_Stoned

That's not similar at all. A 14 year old is a child.

If it was good enough for Jesus to fuck his 14-year-old mother to engender himself it's good enough for everyone.

A lot of replies so far from seemingly so-far-non parents.

If you think you are going to have a great deal of control over your teenage daughter, good luck with that.

If she wants to see this guy, she's going to see him, family craps on about it too much and she's just going to hide it from them...its dead easy


The flip side is that this 20 yr old is going to be so whipped, if things go sour, being that age, easy for her to go to the cops and have him charged for simply just grabbing her butt...and plenty of witnesses to testify thats very likely to have happened. And very likely to happen if she finds out he's doing older girls.

Hell hath no fury like....

if there's nothing sexual about it, not unethical. but not particularly smart either (all the comments about legal entanglements are a mass of arguments why you should not, in the hypothetical imperative sense).

You can say she's not a child all you want, but it's a lie.

She is a child, and it is sexual, or you would not be holding hands, which in this situation IS sexual, and you would not break up with a REAL girlfriend because you had a non sexual friend.

She's a child, and while a 14 year old can function just fine as an adult, and can have sex, and can drive a car, and can think reasonably abstractly, that does NOT mean they're ready for a sexual relationship with someone over 20 fucking years old.

Not acceptable. If I where her dad, you'd be looking at the business end of my shotgun.

Sounds like a perp on To Catch A Predator.

He's naive,stupid or a troll. Maybe all three.

update.

well we decided to be in a courtship phase for the remainder of that year. three months ago we went to this awesome costume party (huge more than a thousand people, multiple dance halls, various live bands, she made her costume and I made most of mine) and it became really unbearable to not call our relationship a relationship. so we danced and I asked and we are now "boyfriend" & "girlfriend". though physically we haven't escalated much, though this part of us is very hard to control.

Just so you know her family is more or less cool with me. (at the dance her father introduced me as her boyfriend) After seeing a year and three months worth of good intentions, they know I'm not some fly by night guy, I'm here with my whole heart that without reservation I love their daughter and try to treat her right. On the flip side we are never with out supervision of some sort. it's very touching how much her parents think of me; we have all become so close, it feels so right and traditional.

the man becoming part of the girl's family.
homecoming is coming again, though I am so glad our first dance to together was such a great event!!!

Love - is not just Lust, and it very easy to be drawn into a World of cynicism and criticism – Care and Affection is a feeling not a choice still, if the care is such then consideration and maturity in your actions needs to be maintained though I wouldn’t necessarily state “sometimes if you love someone so, then you have to let them go” it may need to be held in mind, should things develop Be bold in your conviction, be thoughtful of the situation though also enjoy the experience Love, can be all - meThinks

My advise is to stop seeing this girl. Yes I understand there is no sex involved. But all you need is just 1 big mouth to start saying something and you will find yourself in mountains of trouble. Back off and don't be an idiot.

im sure someone said this but.....i cant say this without being mean but dude fucking forget about that 14 yearold. shes fucking 14 bro, u have a nice legal and EXPERIENCED women not a damn child.

that shit is just fucking gross lol