Originally Posted by L00k1ng
I enjoyed anal sex very much (I am female) from the first experience onward. However, after having my 2nd child, I started having ALOT of problems with anal tearing and it has made my beloved anal sex VERY unpleasant. I have gone to the doctor but that didn't help much. I came to this site to look into working on stretching my anus as a solution?
Any advice other than what has been posted in this forum?
What kind of lube do you use?
I heard someone say once they use Nivea Soft, a thick hand cream. Maybe something like this would be best for you.
I would imagine slow insertion with no hard thrusting would also be advised.
Child birth can cause hemorrhoids but you say you have already seen the Dr.
Here's what I think I would do if I was your male partner.
I would start out by using my well lubed thumb and run it gently around your ass hole.
Once you felt relaxed enough I would push my thumb in bit by bit.
Once inside I would hold it there while you played with your clit to orgasm.
That would be lesson one for the day.
Eventually we would work up to pushing in the head of my penis - no thrusting - just holding it in just past the anal ring while massaging your clit.
The thing is to make anal sex a source of pleasure once again and that is going to take some time and a patient lover.
Wishing you good luck.