Originally Posted by Keenman
You all swear that there is pleasure at the end of the tunnel-so to speak?
Is it all the nerve endings that give all the pleasure?
Does the pleasure come from stimulating the prostate? Or is that a separate type of pleasure unto its own?
I know half or more of my trouble is relaxing the anus. I just can't seem to relax it enough.
I am stuck on the issue that any pressure applied to my ass gives me the feeling that I have to shit. (please take notice Reverand JC) I really do want to enjoy anal play, but maybe not everyone can derive pleasure from it.
Anyone have any info or experience aneros? I've been debating getting their beginner package.
I don't think it's a matter of "relaxing" the anus. The sphincter is literally a muscle. Technically there are three muscles that prevent penetration or make it difficult. There's the exterior sphincter, the interior sphincter and the puborectal sling muscle. All three are located within about two inches and are essentially part of the anus.
For me, being able to get pleasure from anal sex was more about the gradual stretching of the muscles involved than it was about relaxing the muscles. I'm not sure if it's really possible to deliberately relax the muscles involved by some sort of mental technique.
I think the process of stretching the anus is sort of similar to hatha yoga. You start out with your muscles very stiff and you're not able to do any difficult positions. But over time the muscles stretch and become very limber. It's all done by gradually applying slow steady pressure and being very carefull not to try to progress too quickly.
As far as getting pleasure from anal sex, I think it's partly psychological. I think most straight males are completely phobic about getting pleasure from their ass. But if you're open to exploring and not uptight about it, the ass can provide tremendous pleasure.
The truth is that a dildo going in and out of your ass is bound to feel similar to taking a shit. Your nerve endings and muscles don't know what is providing the stimulation. Basically, if you enjoy taking a shit, you'll eventually enjoy anal sex.
Stimulation of the prostate for some men is the most pleasurable part of anal sex. Some men can ejaculate simply by stimulation of the prostate from anal sex; most can not. But in either case, stimulation of the prostate from anal sex feels amazing!
It's a very good idea to take an enema before anal sex. That way you can enjoy the fun without getting messy. Anal sex does trigger a natural function called peristalsis. Peristalsis is the muscular contraction which occurs in the large and small intestine that pushes waste material through the gut. Anal sex triggers peristalsis in the lower colon and rectum, if you're not cleaned out, it can get messy. Basically, when you put a dildo in the rectum, your body thinks its a turd and tries to push it out. This triggering of peristalsis in the rectum for many people is perceived as pleasurable.
At the end of the day, you may decide you don't enjoy the sensations produced by being anally penetrated. But give it a chance, over time you may learn to love it