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Old 05-23-2009, 05:20 PM   #1
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All, how to you control my erection during sex. I get hard quick while cuddling with my gf and when I first put my condom on and fuck her within 1-2mins I cum just like that. I can't last longer then that. Is there any techniques to handle it?

I wonder if she thinks I suck on it too.

Ladies how you feel if your man cum so quick before he didn't even pleasure you at all. Let me know...I wonder what would my gf thinks.
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Old 05-30-2009, 10:59 PM   #2
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Hey,

Cumming early during sex is one of them things that a lot of guys are concious about. There can be several causes physical and mental. A huge cause of it can be over excitement i think though.

Try masterbating before you see your girl,that can help you last longer

Also lots of foreplay can help to make sex seem longer, also if you get a girl equally excited she will cum faster to.
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Old 06-03-2009, 07:50 PM   #3
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Let her take it. Most girls focus on giving. Before you get going, tell her to take it and give it hard. You know what I mean, dont bring it to physical things, its a spiritual thing.
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Old 06-03-2009, 07:51 PM   #4
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try to think of something other than sex while you're in the process. something that will keep you from getting off, but not kill your erection all together.
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Old 06-12-2009, 04:08 AM   #5
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There are a number of techniques people use. You can remove yourself from the situation by thinking of other things, which can be helpful, but also detracts from the experience. You can learn different kinds of physical practices, flexing certain muscles, placing pressure on certain points. Apparently these are effective, however, I've not given them much time. I prefer another method which is to fully put oneself into the experience, make it a full body/mind experience, not something so focused on your genitals. As you spread out your awareness, feeling and perception, while deepening it in all areas, all sensations. This can make the whole experience more pleasurable, spreading out the pleasure so it don't build up as easily in one area. To aid in this approach the breath is very important, full deep breathing down into your lower abdomen.

One thing that might help a great deal is to talk openly with your girlfriend, she might not mind at all. Also, one thing she would appreciate a great deal is foreplay. If you spend 20 minutes in foreplay, then only last another 1 or 2, the experience will be far greater for both of you. A good thing can be to make sure she has already cum at least once before you do.

Don't get down on yourself, totally normal. Do some research for yourself, you can learn from books or find a real life teacher, with some work it is possible to last for many hours. And your girlfriend might like to help, it could be fun and expand the whole experience for each of you.
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First of all, if you wonder what she thinks, ask her.

Try to fuck her slowly. Are you jackhammering away? Not everyone can do that and not blow their load quickly.

Have her get on top. Her pace will likely be slower than yours, and it'll allow her to please herself before she lets you have your way with her.

Spreading out your awareness, like evolove says, is a great idea. So is jerking off before you see her. And if you're still cumming in a couple minutes, surely you're able to go again relatively quickly and last longer?
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Old 06-13-2009, 06:59 AM   #7
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just jack off b4 period. two or three times.
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Old 06-13-2009, 09:56 PM   #8
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the jack off first responces i think are probably a bad idea. i think the reason alot of men shoot fast stems from years of conditioning through masterbation. nothing wrong with masterbation, but when you do masterbate, try taking it slow, really make love to yourself. tune into your body and take time to feel every sensation as it arises, when you get close to ejaculating, breath deep, and pause for a moment.

really getting to know your body is huge, especially breath. breathe deep and slow.
take your time man, theres no hurry
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Old 06-17-2009, 03:33 AM   #9
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the jack off first responces i think are probably a bad idea. i think the reason alot of men shoot fast stems from years of conditioning through masterbation. nothing wrong with masterbation, but when you do masterbate, try taking it slow, really make love to yourself. tune into your body and take time to feel every sensation as it arises, when you get close to ejaculating, breath deep, and pause for a moment.

really getting to know your body is huge, especially breath. breathe deep and slow.
take your time man, theres no hurry
I had to do that for about a month before I recovered from my constant "quickies" with myself. another thing that helps: kegel muscles. learn about them, work them, practice with yourself.
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Old 06-21-2009, 07:36 PM   #10
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man, i wish i had the same problem as you. i just lost my virginity 3 days ago and have had sex 3 times. when im with my gf and were well...yeah...she always cums first and i just cant seem to get to that point. i can almost cum but the sex needs to be just a little bit rougher haha . but we can never have really rough sex cuz sum1 is always home at my house so we gotta kinda keep quiet haha. Im hoping today she can come over while everyones out. but man at least u can cum, i just wish i had ur problem lol cuz my gf cums fast anyways 3-7 mins of fucking.
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