There is a lot more to being gay than just sex. I don't believe in labels anyway, but it's necessary to make the point.
While I have been enjoying the pleasures of some great blowjobs from my very good friend and gladly returning the favor.
I have absolutely no desire to do anything with any other guys. I don't find other guys appealing, nor am I into hugging, kissing, etc..
My relationship with my friend is also a matter of convenience and security. Besides my wife, he is the only one who knows. He says that Im not gay, not even bi, I'm just a horny old bastard who likes a good bj and is secure enough to return the favor and explore my curious side.
The best way for me to explain it is that it is like being able to suck my own cock, but it's not me.
Do any of you guys understand what I'm saying or feel the same?