Confused!

Ok well through out my entire life I have always been telling myself I am straight. I am starting to think I might be Bi now. I seem to have a crush on one of my friends who I went to high school with who is also a guy. I have always liked the dude, but I just seem like I have a crush on him. I am really confused. Through out my entire life I have had signs of me being Gay and all. I remember when I was young I used to put on my sisters clothes when I was home alone. My mom once caught me and questioned if I was Gay. I always said no. I seem to get really ticked off by girls. I hate their personalities a lot. I do check out girls constantly. Recently I have been checking out men...wtf! Now I think I have a mad crush on my friend. I do not know if I am really Bi or... I do not know if I should talk to my friend about it... or...I do not know. I am not sure if I am really Bi. Today I had a random vision me making out with him. Uh. What is happening to me? Any advice? I know I am not saying much. I just need to find out if I am really Bi.

you may be discovering that you are bi or gay - see how it goes, do what you think is right and what you are comfortable with.
- also don't be afraid to talk to you friends about it
- good luck.

This seems to be a common theme and it is our fucked up culture that puts so much homophobia in our minds that causes all this grief. Don't worry about whether you are str8 or gay. Or Bi. I think everyone is bi our at least capable of loving someone of either gender - and get excited by someone of either gender.

So, your prob is solved - it ain't no big deal if you are str8, gay or bi. The real prob is how to deal with your bud that you have the hots for. He may not take it very well so extreme caution should be used. Evaluate carefully how he might take the news that his bud wants to get it on with him. Some guys, as you know are not too open about homosexuality.

I had a high school best friend who I saw years later after I came out to myself and a few others. I expressed my candid feelings to him about how he turned me on, but in HS we did not know how to deal with that. Well, I haven't heard from him since. So, be aware that ur friend may not be ready for what you are finding out.

Thanks...hmm Remember the guy I have a crush on is "GAY" He just recently ended a relationship with another guy and is not single. His ex still has a picture of them kissing on his myspece. When I first saw this, I got jelous! I think I might be Bi! I know for a fact I am not Gay. I check out girls a "lot". Yeah I think he will freak.. He probably will not believe me at first. But Maybe he might like it... Maybe not. I do not feel that it is right for me to be with another guy, but I have strong attractions for him.

Originally Posted by iCast5

Thanks...hmm Remember the guy I have a crush on is "GAY" ... Yeah I think he will freak.. He probably will not believe me at first. But Maybe he might like it... Maybe not. I do not feel that it is right for me to be with another guy, but I have strong attractions for him.

If he is gay then he should not freak with you coming out to him. Then just see what the mood is between the two of you. You don't have to marry him to explore physicality with another man, and a friend will likely be the best.

You might even tell him you are curious about it. He may offer to explore with you.

Back in the '70s sex was so casual that you could get physically intimate with almost any guy or girl without all the drama. That was when I discovered making it with guys and it was such fun. Hope it hasn't regressed too much to the puritanism I grew up in. Have fun.

Hey to that last post. The whole casual sex crap is a bunch or crap too me. Kind of dangerous. It is asking for STD.... Anyways......

I TOLD MY GAY FRIEND! He was super chill with it and all... He even invited me to make out with him and his other friend! :P Although... He is ignoring me for some reason....

Anyways. I really want to get out and experiment. I have made peace with myself. Ok I am Bi, and I accept it. I am in college and should have the opportunity for it. The only problem is...Normally whenever a dude is Bi or Gay, you can tell just by looking at him. I look straight! I know the classic stereotype for Gays is forward Mohawk and big sunglasses. A lot of Gays I know present themselves like that. I do not really care about all this fashion crap. I just wana know how to present myself so other Bi or Gay men know I WANT THEM!

really best way to do that is to hit a gay bar!
you don't have to look like a flamer to pick up guys, probly the guys you'll be into won't be like that anyway, just like i'm not usually into butch girls - bi people tend to be more balanced between masculine and feminine.
once you make a few gay/bi friends to hang with (even if you don't hook up with them), things will be easier - just be open with people who have had or are having similar experiences.
it's rough because of the society we live in, but people like us are making it better every day. be proud of who you are because you are wonderful and open-minded.

Am I bi? I think so but don't spend time analysing it. I am married and have no desire to have an emotional relationship with any male but I do enjoy mutual sexual fun, masturbation, oral watching gay or straight porn with either or both sex's. Is being liberated and bi one and the same? No idea. All I know is that my cock and I have had some great fun over the years, although my concern over STD's (especially AIDS) does take the edge of it as I insist on condoms for oral and deny myself the pleasure of being used analy.

I am not saying I wanna change myself. I was asking for advice on how to pick up on other guys... I am a young adult who is in college. I want to take advantage of this time to have fun and experiment a little.


O SHOOT A GAY BAR???(I would like that actually...) I have a problem with controlling parents. They would find out, and I would be screwed! I am getting kinda desperate...

fuck your parents. be yourself. eventually they will learn to accept you, and if not, they're assholes.

unless they're giving you money... then... yeah.