Co-sleeping - Discussion Topic

Co-sleeping - Discussion Topic

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I respect the personal choices of others, but I have to say that overall I'm not for co-sleeping. I think it's for people who must have less than active sex lives. What do you do at night when you want to sleep with your mate? Tell your child to leave the room for a while until you're done? Have sex outside your own bedroom (not a bad idea, but not for every night)? Also, doesn't sharing a bed teach a child to be needy? Perhaps a child who grows up and clings to a bad mate in fear of sleeping alone? I have a friend who had that opinion about his own Mother's co-sleeping habit with him.
With that said, it is easier when your child is still in breastfeeding stages. I enjoyed not getting up everynight in the middle of the night to walk to another room.

I co-sleep with our baby and it is much more accommodating. There is less fear and separation for the baby. Once he is older and more independent, he will sleep alone.

You just have to be cool with getting in on anytime you can, wherever. So really, that sounds like a MORE active sex life. And more inventive.

Sleeping in a crib, alone, in another room seems like a crazy scary transition from the womb, ya know?

Thanks for the links!

Originally Posted by Vikingalchemist

I respect the personal choices of others, but I have to say that overall I'm not for co-sleeping. I think it's for people who must have less than active sex lives. What do you do at night when you want to sleep with your mate? Tell your child to leave the room for a while until you're done? Have sex outside your own bedroom (not a bad idea, but not for every night)? Also, doesn't sharing a bed teach a child to be needy? Perhaps a child who grows up and clings to a bad mate in fear of sleeping alone? I have a friend who had that opinion about his own Mother's co-sleeping habit with him.
With that said, it is easier when your child is still in breastfeeding stages. I enjoyed not getting up everynight in the middle of the night to walk to another room.

I'm the complete opposite, we co-slept with my son until he was over 1, then on and off until he was afew month shy of 2. The bed isnt the only place you can have sex, at all - infact it actually made mine and my partners sex life better, more adventurous, more spontanious etc.
It also definitely did not teach my son to be needy, infact the complete opposite, we decided he would sleep 100% of the time in his own bed when he was nearly 2 and he had no problem doing so, he trusted us more and was comfortable knowing he could come in with us had he been scared or anything, he now sleeps better than all my friends children, he never ever wakes during the night and associates bed time with a pleasent feeling rather than the drudgery of being alone that most children feel about bed time which makes bedtime much a much easier time than my friends and family who didnt cosleep seem to have.