Advice on a threesome

My husband and I are toying with the idea of having a threesome with another girl, namely one of my good friends. It almost happened recently, when after a night of drinking and partying, but didn't because there were other people there. The only thing is, she's single and dating around. My husband and I had actually planned on inviting her over Saturday for some fun (I've already talked to her about it and she's game) but she just spent the day with another guy -- and it's making me kind of edgy. I know we can't expect her to remain celibate just because of us, but we don't know this guy or where he's been. My husband and I really want this to happen, especially with her (there aren't really any other options for threesomes, plus she's pretty damn attractive) but we just don't know what to do now. Any advice?

you need to talk to her about it. cant expect it to magically happen - yes it works that way for some people but its awfully rare. And if you want to talk about stds and sexual health then you definitely need to have open honest communication with this woman (and use protection when all 3 of you engage in your 3some)

Originally Posted by Allonym

you need to talk to her about it. cant expect it to magically happen - yes it works that way for some people but its awfully rare. And if you want to talk about stds and sexual health then you definitely need to have open honest communication with this woman (and use protection when all 3 of you engage in your 3some)

Well the good thing is, my husband isn't interested in penetration (he's real particular about stuff like that) and she isn't, either. So it'd mainly be all foreplay except for between him and myself. But I feel bad talking to her, I don't want her to feel like I'm trying to control her sex life to make our experiences better.

Well that's good, because I've honestly heard that the only way a three work will ever feel right and work is if it's with two other people that you have no feelings about. I know it sounds harsh, but your just setting yourself up to get jealous or to get hurt...

Really think about it before you proceed and of course, get tests...

Can you post a picture of you and her up on here? It'll really help with my imagination.. hehe

jokin jokin - unless u actually want to?