I'm Russian and I felt in love with Columbian girl

Hi. I'm Russian and I felt in love with Columbian girl and this drives me crazy. I live in USA not too long (just few years) and I came here in rather adult age (I'm 27 now). Let me tell you this story, maybe you can help me with any advice. About a year ago she came to work in our company. It happened that her desk is next to me. At first look I didn't feel anything to her but in several months I realized that I think about her more and more. That I notised her looking at me too and I started flirting with her. In some time I felt like she liked me too. I started thinking about it and understood I love her. But I knew she had a boyfriend so I felt like I was in a hell. I was trying not to think of her trying to convice myself it's just aometjing like light flirt and nothing else. About half a year ago I heard her saying to someone she broke up with her boyfriend and I was like happiest man on Earth. I guess she knew about it.
Unfortunatelly I'm very shy in such kind of things and it took me a long time to ask her out. She agreed but we didn't schedule exact date. Anyway, I was so happy! But once I came home and spoke to a friend of mine, he told me that I shouldn't forget that we are from different countries, we have different mentality, different culture. I was thinking of it too much I guess. And I guess she got offended that it took me too much time to realize that I shouldn't care about such things as difference in culture, language and all these things and let it go as is. Since than I was trying to ask her out hundrend of times. Firstly she says yes but than 1-2 days before the date she finds the reason why she cannot go. It looks like she wants to play with me or something like that. I just don't know waht to do. And the problem is that I see her every day and for me it's like slightly cutting my heart into pieces. It drives me crazy and I have no way out but quit this job. But I still love her and every night I see her in my dreams! Maybe some columbian girls can help me to understand the situation and what should I do before I lost my mind completely.
Thanks for reading this.
P.S. I'm sorry for my English, I know it's far from perfection

You have more in common than you suspect.


You are both in a new country trying to understand and adapt to it.

Melting pot is an old cliche but it hangs around because its true.

and people do get tired of hanging with thier own kind, Here you can
step out and experience the diferences.

Her English may not be any better than yours. Go for it !

why dont you do a lunch date..keep it friendly,,and ask her ina nice way whats wrong..maybe shes just afraid of getting involved right now?

Well, the whole human race is a melting pot, so don't worry about that part.

However, you're NOT in love with her, you're infatuated with her, which is not the same thing. Hell, you might go out with her a few times and decide you don't even like her. Real love is something mutual. If she really feels anything for you, she'll go out with you-you won't have to ask her ten zillion times. You may be coming on too strong to her, and that's scaring her off. If you really believe that you're head over heels in love with her, it may come across that way to her and turn her off.

I think you need to take a more relaxed approach to it. Don't ask her out so often. If she doesn't take you up on your offer, just say 'screw it' and ask some other girl out. If she has any real feelings for you she'll make some kind of advance toward you sooner or later.

She proberly keeps blowing you off since she is still seeing her ex boyfriend.
Find someone else and no matter where we come from on the planet-a player is a player.
Welcome to America-Your English is great.
Now go have sex with some American chicks.

Originally Posted by wizarddrew77

Welcome to America-
Now go have sex with some American chicks.

Thanks for you replies, guys! Probably, you are right - the more you show a girl your feeling, the less she is interested in you. I'll try to cool myself down, let's see what's going on then.